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Here are 5 poisonous character traits that, if allowed in your home, will RUIN your kids:
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Here are 5 poisonous character traits that, if allowed in your home, will RUIN your kids:
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Your kids watch everything you do
They listen to every word you say
And they behave precisely how you behave
This is no accident
It’s evolution (once again)
Read as we discuss why this is so, and explore some of the most 'contagious' bad behaviors YOU should stop immediately
They listen to every word you say
And they behave precisely how you behave
This is no accident
It’s evolution (once again)
Read as we discuss why this is so, and explore some of the most 'contagious' bad behaviors YOU should stop immediately
Contents:
(Part 1):
1. Why do we copy our parents?
2. Rudeness
3. Gossipping
4. Laziness
5. Complaining
6. Frivolous Spending
(Part 1):
1. Why do we copy our parents?
2. Rudeness
3. Gossipping
4. Laziness
5. Complaining
6. Frivolous Spending
1. Why:
Humans thrive when we are part of a ‘group’, and risk death when we aren’t
That’s as true today as ever
If you’re accepted by the group, you have its protection
There’s strength in numbers
If you’re rejected by the group, you’re alone
Predators love solitary prey
Humans thrive when we are part of a ‘group’, and risk death when we aren’t
That’s as true today as ever
If you’re accepted by the group, you have its protection
There’s strength in numbers
If you’re rejected by the group, you’re alone
Predators love solitary prey
What’s one way to signal that you belong to a group?
Behave similarly!
It works for office environments, it works for friend groups, and it works for families
Evolution wouldn’t leave this up to chance, so it made it automatic
Your children WILL do what YOU do
Behave similarly!
It works for office environments, it works for friend groups, and it works for families
Evolution wouldn’t leave this up to chance, so it made it automatic
Your children WILL do what YOU do
There’s no escaping the force of this finely tuned ‘modeling’ adaptation
And what do you do when a force of nature is inevitable?
You use it to your advantage!
Show your children virtue, get virtue in return
Show your children vice, and doom them to a life of despair
And what do you do when a force of nature is inevitable?
You use it to your advantage!
Show your children virtue, get virtue in return
Show your children vice, and doom them to a life of despair
And so like everything else in life:
To save your family, you must first save yourself
Which of our bad behaviors are the most ‘contagious’? The most likely to be adopted by our children?
And which behaviors should therefore be avoided all the more deliberately?
Read on:
To save your family, you must first save yourself
Which of our bad behaviors are the most ‘contagious’? The most likely to be adopted by our children?
And which behaviors should therefore be avoided all the more deliberately?
Read on:
1. Rudeness
How do you treat people? How do you speak to those ‘beneath’ your station?
Waiters?
Store clerks?
Uber Drivers?
Telemarketers?
Would you be proud if your child spoke to them the same way?
Because they will
Is the momentary 'superiority' you feel worth that?
How do you treat people? How do you speak to those ‘beneath’ your station?
Waiters?
Store clerks?
Uber Drivers?
Telemarketers?
Would you be proud if your child spoke to them the same way?
Because they will
Is the momentary 'superiority' you feel worth that?
Rudeness is WEAKNESS
By being rude you're signaling you're threatened, defensive
You’re saying you worry the target of your rudeness might be better than YOU
A rude man is a man fearful of being found out as a FRAUD, so he insults and belittles to distract from his inadequacy
By being rude you're signaling you're threatened, defensive
You’re saying you worry the target of your rudeness might be better than YOU
A rude man is a man fearful of being found out as a FRAUD, so he insults and belittles to distract from his inadequacy
1. Rudeness - SOLUTION
Be kind
Kindness is strength
Kindness shows your value
True superiority, true ABUNDANCE,
Comes from the ability to show kindness to all
Regardless of their perceived station or slight against you
Magnanimity is the ultimate 'flex'
Model it always
Be kind
Kindness is strength
Kindness shows your value
True superiority, true ABUNDANCE,
Comes from the ability to show kindness to all
Regardless of their perceived station or slight against you
Magnanimity is the ultimate 'flex'
Model it always
2. Gossiping
Your children are all ears
Do they hear you speak ill of your neighbors?
Do they hear you delight in sharing salacious stories about friends or family?
If you traffic in gossip your children will follow suit
They value what you value, they DO what you DO
Your children are all ears
Do they hear you speak ill of your neighbors?
Do they hear you delight in sharing salacious stories about friends or family?
If you traffic in gossip your children will follow suit
They value what you value, they DO what you DO
Take pity on gossipers, for they are sick
Speaking ill of other people reveals a lack of purpose in one’s own life
It’s cowardly, because it’s done behind another’s back, and because it reveals you have nothing of note in your own life to discuss
The gossiper takes no risks
Speaking ill of other people reveals a lack of purpose in one’s own life
It’s cowardly, because it’s done behind another’s back, and because it reveals you have nothing of note in your own life to discuss
The gossiper takes no risks
Remember:
WEAK people speak about other people
AVERAGE people speak about themselves
STRONG people speak to impose their will
Gossiping makes you the weakest of the weak
And when you see it in children, the source of that behavior is always WEAK parenting
WEAK people speak about other people
AVERAGE people speak about themselves
STRONG people speak to impose their will
Gossiping makes you the weakest of the weak
And when you see it in children, the source of that behavior is always WEAK parenting
2. Gossiping - SOLUTION
YOU are not weak! YOU are not cowardly!
Speak of others freely if you’re offering praise
But never speak about their private ordeals, and NEVER speak poorly of their character
JUDGE their character all you want, this is healthy
But judge SILENTLY
YOU are not weak! YOU are not cowardly!
Speak of others freely if you’re offering praise
But never speak about their private ordeals, and NEVER speak poorly of their character
JUDGE their character all you want, this is healthy
But judge SILENTLY
3. Laziness
Imagine this -
It’s a beautiful spring day outside
The weather has just turned, the sun is shining
And your fat little children spend it on the couch, chortling at poisonous televised animated agitprop
Why are they doing this? Because YOU showed them how
Imagine this -
It’s a beautiful spring day outside
The weather has just turned, the sun is shining
And your fat little children spend it on the couch, chortling at poisonous televised animated agitprop
Why are they doing this? Because YOU showed them how
Sloth is an affront to God
He blessed you with eyes, ears, legs and arms
Why?
So you could see, hear and move freely about the world
To receive such a gift and not use it is a sin
And THE WAGES OF SIN IS DEATH
He blessed you with eyes, ears, legs and arms
Why?
So you could see, hear and move freely about the world
To receive such a gift and not use it is a sin
And THE WAGES OF SIN IS DEATH
Let your children see you waste away entire days, and they’ll think it appropriate to do the same
Let them see you stare mindlessly and unproductively at your phone, and they’ll beg to follow suit
Let them see you laugh at God, and they will laugh louder!
So what should we do?
Let them see you stare mindlessly and unproductively at your phone, and they’ll beg to follow suit
Let them see you laugh at God, and they will laugh louder!
So what should we do?
3. Laziness - SOLUTION
Every day there is breath in your lungs is a blessing beyond measure
To wake up in the morning is to receive a gift so precious that it’s been ultimately snatched back from every man ever born
Don’t waste it!
Lift weights
Play sports
Hike outdoors
Every day there is breath in your lungs is a blessing beyond measure
To wake up in the morning is to receive a gift so precious that it’s been ultimately snatched back from every man ever born
Don’t waste it!
Lift weights
Play sports
Hike outdoors
The method of movement is not important
What’s important is your disciplined determination that you WILL move, every day, without exception
Give your children this gift and it will serve them for a lifetime
Fail to do so, and they'll never escape the prison you made for them
What’s important is your disciplined determination that you WILL move, every day, without exception
Give your children this gift and it will serve them for a lifetime
Fail to do so, and they'll never escape the prison you made for them
4. Complaining
Question: What’s more pathetic than a petulant, complaining child?
Answer: The parent who made him that way
To complain is to admit your powerlessness
Proclaiming your weakness loudly for all the world to hear
Praying for charity where none will be found
Question: What’s more pathetic than a petulant, complaining child?
Answer: The parent who made him that way
To complain is to admit your powerlessness
Proclaiming your weakness loudly for all the world to hear
Praying for charity where none will be found
Complaining is never appropriate
Either the issue at hand is within your control, and you should act to resolve it
Or it isn’t, and you shouldn’t speak of it all
'Complaining" is attention-seeking behavior designed to recruit pity
But instead, you recruit only disdain
Either the issue at hand is within your control, and you should act to resolve it
Or it isn’t, and you shouldn’t speak of it all
'Complaining" is attention-seeking behavior designed to recruit pity
But instead, you recruit only disdain
4. Complaining - SOLUTION
When you hear a complaint from your child, ask one simple question:
Can you do anything about it?
If the answer is yes - then the complaining stops and action begins
If the answer is no - then the complaining stops and acceptance begins
When you hear a complaint from your child, ask one simple question:
Can you do anything about it?
If the answer is yes - then the complaining stops and action begins
If the answer is no - then the complaining stops and acceptance begins
The man who complains gains nothing
He finds no solutions to his problems
He freezes himself in time, resenting his predicament
And he finds no pity, only contempt
Others hear complaints from a man, but they see a weak-willed child
He finds no solutions to his problems
He freezes himself in time, resenting his predicament
And he finds no pity, only contempt
Others hear complaints from a man, but they see a weak-willed child
5. Frivolous Spending
This is a particularly dangerous behavior, as the extent of its damage may take years to fully present itself
Your children ARE picking up on patterns in your relationship with money and credit
And they’ll assume you can ‘afford’ everything you purchase
This is a particularly dangerous behavior, as the extent of its damage may take years to fully present itself
Your children ARE picking up on patterns in your relationship with money and credit
And they’ll assume you can ‘afford’ everything you purchase
But can you?
Or are you purchasing momentary status at the expense of your future security?
If your finances aren’t in order, not only do you risk the immediate security of your family
But you’re setting your children on a path to do the same
On and on the cycle goes
Or are you purchasing momentary status at the expense of your future security?
If your finances aren’t in order, not only do you risk the immediate security of your family
But you’re setting your children on a path to do the same
On and on the cycle goes
5. Frivolous Spending - SOLUTION
You must have a written budget
You must spend less than you earn
You must allocate what’s leftover to debt or investment
That's the simplest explanation of personal finance you'll ever see, and it's all you need
But there's one more step:
You must have a written budget
You must spend less than you earn
You must allocate what’s leftover to debt or investment
That's the simplest explanation of personal finance you'll ever see, and it's all you need
But there's one more step:
You MUST speak openly with your children about the above
You do them no favors keeping this information close to the chest
If you’re making mistakes in your own finances, you’re dooming them to repeat after you
And if you're not, but also not educating, the damage is the same
You do them no favors keeping this information close to the chest
If you’re making mistakes in your own finances, you’re dooming them to repeat after you
And if you're not, but also not educating, the damage is the same
If you’re still reading, I have great hope for you
Either the information above doesn’t apply, and you are in a strong position
Or it does, and you now have everything you need to resolve your situation
So either way, congratulations!
Either the information above doesn’t apply, and you are in a strong position
Or it does, and you now have everything you need to resolve your situation
So either way, congratulations!
But are these the only ‘bad habits’ you should avoid when raising your children? No!
When this account reaches 2000 follows I will release Part 2, where we’ll cover more bad habits to avoid:
6. Eating garbage
7. Raising your voice
8. Apologizing
9. Slovenliness
10. Being Late
When this account reaches 2000 follows I will release Part 2, where we’ll cover more bad habits to avoid:
6. Eating garbage
7. Raising your voice
8. Apologizing
9. Slovenliness
10. Being Late
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Thank you as always for reading
Together we WILL RISE
Thank you as always for reading
Together we WILL RISE
