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Over the past few days I& #39;ve been thinking about how I& #39;ve contributed to rape culture in the past, and how I would not have been able to unlearn those had it not been for some amazing women in my life. But women should not have to bear that burden, so for all the men out there
Who consider themselves to be "unproblematic", here& #39;s how you and the boys you hang out with could be contributing to rape culture, and you possibly may not be aware of it because it& #39;s so normalized.
1) having a crush on someone and desiring someone who has shown no interest in
1) having a crush on someone and desiring someone who has shown no interest in
You are two different things. Using professional or academic reasons to get to spend time with someone that you want but who has shown no signs of being into you is predatory and contributes to rape culture by using structures which favor men. She would be considered rude or
Unreasonable if she doesn& #39;t agree to spending this time with you , which removes the concept of consent. So no, you cannot have a crush on your teacher, or that girl in your class you haven& #39;t even talked to yet, or your co worker who& #39;s never said more than a hi to you.
2) it& #39;s a common trend in every boys group to tease any guy who talks to women in a completely platonic manner as a "player", suggesting that he is actually into them and is using the guise of friendship to get closer to them. The guy feels like he& #39;s in an awkward position
Because while he denies it, his group just laughs it off. This is not alright. It insinuates that no relationship between men and women can exist without being sexualized, which works very against women because of the unequal social ramifications of being sexual. You& #39;re a stud
And she& #39;s a slut. But this is not something the guys group is completely responsible for , but the guy himself who& #39;s friends with the girl should have the backbone to tell his friends to have some basic decency when talking about his friend
3) stop discussing women and their
3) stop discussing women and their
Physical appearances amongst yourself. At all. This is the breeding ground for rape culture because it encourages men to think of women as nothing more than their bodies. This environment helps men in their entitlement over women& #39;s bodies. If your friend group refuses to give
This up then you& #39;re better off without them. So cut them off
4) as a man it& #39;s your duty to make every encounter with women as non threatening as possible. Idc how much inconvenience it brings you. Every time you pass by a woman walking keep your eyes on the ground.
4) as a man it& #39;s your duty to make every encounter with women as non threatening as possible. Idc how much inconvenience it brings you. Every time you pass by a woman walking keep your eyes on the ground.
If you& #39;re with a group of other men and you see a woman walking alone, take another route. If you fear for her safety see if there& #39;s any non threatening manner you can offer to walk her home with, but 9/10 chances are there aren& #39;t. Realize how your presence makes the women around
You feel and work on that. I know so many women for whom loud voices are a trigger, so keep your voice low and soft.
5)have that conversation in your group. I know it& #39;s scary because this is the only social value you have in your life, and ostracization is terrifying , but if you
5)have that conversation in your group. I know it& #39;s scary because this is the only social value you have in your life, and ostracization is terrifying , but if you
