Honestly this CC casting debacle is exactly why I hate this trend of "tell me how you ID in your audition!" Not everyone is out, not everyone is sure, and the public isn& #39;t entitled to know how you identify. Queerness is complicated and being public isn& #39;t the end-all be-all.
And I *completely get* the frustration from queer folks. I promise you, I do. Representation fucking matters.

But!

Insisting that you must be confident and out and proud before you& #39;re allowed to play queer characters doesn& #39;t sit right with me.
I wish we could have conversations that honor the nuance of these situations, but we have them on Twitter and character limits make meaningful discussion SO difficult. I don& #39;t know what the answer is.
Out-ness isn& #39;t even cut and dry. I& #39;m out as lesbian, but there are people I& #39;m out to and not out to in varying degrees, and the same goes for my wife - who I don& #39;t name online.

Out-ness as a signifier for "queer purity" is so deeply upsetting to me.
Also, as much as I appreciate allies, I wish people would sit down and listen first if it& #39;s not your fight. The people I saw being nasty yesterday are, generally speaking, not even trans. Why? Why do you feel the need to attack queer people and fellow allies? Can you just listen?
I don& #39;t think there& #39;s an easy, clean answer for this. Queerness is messy, it& #39;s complicated, it& #39;s not "solved" and probably will never be. We& #39;re not a monolith and we constantly disagree.

But I want so badly for us to be open and honest with each other in our disagreements.
Please be open to the notion that you don& #39;t have all the facts. Please be open to people with experiences of queerness that don& #39;t match your own. Please listen, learn, and speak to one another with grace. That& #39;s all.
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