A lot of ppl want close friendships but put no effort or intentionality behind building platonic bonds with people. Do you show up? Do you take initiative and make plans? Do you make it a priority to make up for it if you can’t be physically present?

Many ppl only put real effort into romantic situations but w/ friends they would never go out of their comfort zone or even slightly inconvenience themselves to be there for them. I get that ppl are busy but there’s 1000 ways to show ppl you care. And it has to be reciprocated

Put your energy into building friendship bonds with people who operate on the same value system as you. What does friendship look like to them? If it doesn’t look the same as your idea then y’all probably don’t need to be close like that and that’s okay.

Personally, I take my close friendships extremely seriously, you’re on the same level as family to me. If that’s not what it looks like to someone else I’m not mad at it, people are different, but they’re just going to be an acquaintance so I don’t feel hurt and drained