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ASSUMPTION:
I know adopted adults who claim to be just fine and don’t seem to suffer any trauma at all. Some are even thankful to have been removed from their biological families. Maybe adoption trauma only affects those who are less resilient.
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I know adopted adults who claim to be just fine and don’t seem to suffer any trauma at all. Some are even thankful to have been removed from their biological families. Maybe adoption trauma only affects those who are less resilient.
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REALITY:
Our trauma is not about the circumstances that led to one’s adoption nor what someone believes or doesn’t believe at any given place on their journey—but about the underlying facts of maternal separation and understanding its impact on our brain, development,
Our trauma is not about the circumstances that led to one’s adoption nor what someone believes or doesn’t believe at any given place on their journey—but about the underlying facts of maternal separation and understanding its impact on our brain, development,
neurobiology, etc. when life begins with this traumatic event.
It is also about multiple aspects of lifelong grief & loss as a result of not growing up with biological family; cultural loss, and how the absence of genetic, racial, and ethnic mirroring significantly impact
It is also about multiple aspects of lifelong grief & loss as a result of not growing up with biological family; cultural loss, and how the absence of genetic, racial, and ethnic mirroring significantly impact
psychological, mental, and emotional health.
TAKEAWAY:
A person’s demeanor doesn’t necessarily reflect an accurate level of self-awareness or what’s actually being experienced on the inside. Family separation is inherently traumatic, regardless of circumstance. It is *because* of one’s self-awareness, resilience, and
A person’s demeanor doesn’t necessarily reflect an accurate level of self-awareness or what’s actually being experienced on the inside. Family separation is inherently traumatic, regardless of circumstance. It is *because* of one’s self-awareness, resilience, and
courage that make navigating trauma possible.
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“I am unaffected” vs. “I understand that I am affected“ both share the same underlying facts of maternal separation, relinquishment, and subsequent adoption. No wrong or right perception, just varying levels of consciousness.
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“I am unaffected” vs. “I understand that I am affected“ both share the same underlying facts of maternal separation, relinquishment, and subsequent adoption. No wrong or right perception, just varying levels of consciousness.
We know that the separation of mother & baby causes lifelong trauma in multiple ways into adulthood, and we know the evidence of that is scientifically and factually supported.
When an adoptee has chosen to delve courageously into their trauma and vulnerably share their journey, responding with comments like: “I know this person and they are fine” or “Not all adoptees (etc.)...” are not only irrelevant, they’re dismissive.
Awareness is everything. The more self-aware we are, the more able we are to show up for ourselves and those we love; the more authentic our relationships have the opportunity to be.
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#suicideawarenessmonth #adoptee #adoption
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#suicideawarenessmonth #adoptee #adoption
