i still think experiencing aligned attractions is a privilege.

most people who experience split attraction (including me when i did) use at least two labels for their orientation. but because the world focuses on sexual orientation, that's what people focus on

so say i'm biromantic ace. in surveys or stuff like that i'd always have to choose whether to put asexual and have my romantic orientation erased, or put bisexual and have my sexual orientation erased and my romantic one misrepresented

it's alightly less of a problem with words like gay or lesbian as they don't have the typical -sexual suffix, but they'll still make you erase a part of yourself

people who experience split attraction are often accused of faking their sexuality ("you're not really a lesbian if you're not romantically attracted to women")

or "you're not really bisexual if romantically you only like men".

people who experience split attraction are often accused of having comphet or internalised homophobia, like "you're not biromantic homosexual, you just have comphet" and "you're only asexual because of internalised homophobia, you'll come around eventually" and the last one

has big "you'll find the right person eventually" energy

all of this is stuff people can deal with when their attractions don't align. most of this stuff i experienced when i identified as bi/pan ace. and i get none of this shit now that bisexuality fully describes me