Where did we learn that boundaries were unhealthy?

I texted a loved one and asked them if they were available to talk as it was later in the day and they have to wake up early tomorrow.

We had played a little phone tag earlier and I just wanted to respect their life and responsibilities. #boundaries

They responded and said they were available. I excitedly FaceTimed them because I really wanted to talk and attempt to be intimate with them.

The entire FaceTime call was met with distant energy and their camera was faced to the wall.

I asked several times if they were going through something because the behavior was strange. They repeatedly told me that they were fine.

At the end of our call I informed them that it’s okay to be going through something and to share that they’re not ready to talk about it. Because #Boundaries

They had admitted that they were just stressed and had a lot on their mind. Which I responded with understanding and well wishes through this obvious challenging moment for them.

It just left me wondering why anyone don’t we respect our own boundaries? Why is it so hard to create and stick to them?

I believe boundaries are a form of self love, self respect, self care & a practice of good mental hygiene that help us foster relationships with ourselves & others.

Can we teach our elders about the importance of setting boundaries for themselves?