Wow, I really took my break at just the right time... the universe has been speaking to me &knew I didn't need to be on here

But now I'm back and maybe only for a driveby.. we will see

This isn't going to be short, but it also won't be a drag.. there's clearly enough hate here

already. If you're into astrology, lets start there. (grab a cup of tea. probably chamomile. or lavender. we all need to calm ourselves the fuck down anyway)

I've been meditating and journaling and doing yoga today and my tea is next to me, so i'm already in my final form

I know everyone loves to talk about mercury in retrograde, but that's not the only planet (by far!) that retrogrades. So let's chat a bit about MARS RETROGRADE.

On the 9th, Mars stationed retrograde:

"A Mars retrograde is typically a time where heated exchanges become more dominant, the impact of the harm we’ve experienced and that we perpetuate more evident, and the divisions between us much harder to ignore. "

Sound familiar? It *might*.

While Mars is a time that we can use to perpetuate the hurt we've felt and experienced on to others, it doesn't have to be.

Just a little food for thought. No matter how planets life the world circumstances affect our emotions moods and responses, at the end of the day we are each responsible for our actions and reactions to these triggers or stressors.

I invite all of us to spend time

really thinking about our impact, and the mark we are leaving in the world and on others.

ALL that being said, lets get on to what I really want to talk about.

Fandoms. Yep. Uh huh. We're doing that one again. But.. its a little different this time.

This time, I want to spend a bit of time talking about people who hide in fandoms to cause drama, divisiveness and drama; how to spot them how to interact them and hopefully ultimately how to avoid and them and remove them from your daily interactions and sphere of influence

I will break this down into the following parts:

how to spot a hater/shit starter

how to separate actual facts from speculation

examining the concepts of toxicity, positivity and perfection/idealization

individual responsibility and culpability

how to spot a hater/shit starter

how to separate actual facts from speculation

ask yourself--

what are the facts vs what are "fans" speculating/claiming as true?

examining the concepts of toxicity, positivity and perfection/idealization

so back to haters and drama,

how do you respond to or shut down a hater/someone trying to get a rise out of you?

individual responsibility and culpability

try at all costs to avoid being toxic yourself.

the thing is, we all have less than desirable traits-- when you sink to the level of someone trying to goad you, when you lower yourself to play at their level, you debase yourself.

...bc if that's how you really feel and that's always how you respond when someone takes it there; i can only conclude that that is how you really feel. and if you do i kind of wish you'd keep it to yourself bc that's pretty crappy.

i also think that no one can win in that kind of shit talking.. at some point it goes too far. but what never happens is a genuine resolution. so again-- what was accomplished?

be careful what words you weaponize and the impact those words have against innocent bystanders that belong to those groups

a lot of these are a reach for me, (queer black cis woman) but if i found myself getting ready to use a derogatory term that is used against a marginalized community in a fit of anger i would have to say to myself,

and i would need to analyze myself immediately to deal w this unexpected blind spot of mine. it shouldn't be so easy for yall to use slurs or insults unless you use them in your real every day life.

I could go on and on &am actually thinking about doing an entire video on this topic(!) but for now I will leave it here.

we all have a responsibility to try not to be just another shitty human on the internet.

we also have a responsibility to think critically about our actions and other people's intentions.

many people online do not have good intentions. they want to cause divisions. they want to undermine other people's success. they want to bully and hurt others.

everyone on the internet is not your friend and doesn't have your best interest at heart no matter how friendly they may seem. in fact, overtly friendly people who latch on to you and immediately call you their friend and drain you for information and gossip,

are not showing you friendship, they're showcasing the winning trait of a leech, not a human being.

I really hope this reaches someone on here today, because you know how I was talking about communication and translations and etc last time I was here? Well that shit is about to be on 1000x bc mercury will JOIN mars’ retrogade on the 23rd:

I don't think any of us want to be around if we keep letting things escalate to the level they can by then.

So that's it.

be well, yall.

take breaks. drink water.

remember the internet is a cesspool and try not to be dragged under

oh! and all my astrology notes are courtesy of chani nicholas <3 https://chani-nicholas.myshopify.com/products/a-workshop-for-the-new-moon-in-virgo-full-moon-in-aries-and-the-astrology-of-sep-17th-oct-15th-a-journey-through-mars-retrograde-part-2