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u kno what, here& #39;s a thread of the reasons behind self harm and helpful things to say/ ideas to suggest to somebody who struggles with self harm: https://twitter.com/zackluvr/status/1305290319840391169">https://twitter.com/zackluvr/...
self harm is a coping mechanism. whether it be you& #39;re suffering from mental illness, like depression or anxiety, or something& #39;s happening in your life at that moment, it& #39;s something to help that person feel better.
a couple reasons somebody may be self harming:
it helps them to feel mentally strong if they feel physical pain.
a punishment for themself.
just because they like to harm themselfs.
it helps them to feel mentally strong if they feel physical pain.
a punishment for themself.
just because they like to harm themselfs.
it& #39;s very hard to get someone out of the mindset that self harming is good for them, that as long as they don& #39;t take it to far they& #39;ll be fine. they may never get out of that thought, but as long as you show you& #39;re there for them, it& #39;ll be a nice feeling.
//things to suggest to do when somebody& #39;s thinking about relapsing:
freeze an orange or lemon, and once it& #39;s VERY cold, hold it in your hand for as long as you want. it& #39;ll start to hurt, burn even, but it doesn& #39;t leave scars.
bake something, make a meal,
listen to things that calms you down while you do so.
listen to things that calms you down while you do so.
have a trusted person hide your tool for you, or if you& #39;re like me, my tool is a comfort item for me. i need to know what room it& #39;s in or else i& #39;ll feel very anxious and upset. let them put it somewhere you can& #39;t get to-
and somewhere that you can know where it is without being able to reach for it. ex. "it& #39;s in the kitchen" (this has worked for me, i& #39;m not saying it& #39;ll work for everyone)
use a rubber band or hairbow. everytime you feel like you& #39;ll relapse, pull it so it smacks wherever you& #39;re wearing it.
draw somebody who struggles with self harm, even if it& #39;s a stick figure, put your form of self harm on their body and do that until the urge goes away/ lifts.
things to say to somebody who self harms/ has self harm scars:
"i don& #39;t think any lesser of you"
"you& #39;re so strong"
"i& #39;m so proud of you"
"you& #39;re doing so good"
"your scars show how strong you are that you made it through that"
"i& #39;ll be here with you through every relapse, thought or action, okay?"
this is the ending of the thread :) thank u if u read this through. i& #39;ve struggled with self harm for 5 years now and it means so much that you read about how to help.
reminders: never point out somebody& #39;s scars. if you see fresh relapses on somebody, don& #39;t point them out, ask them privately if they want to talk about it. and if they don& #39;t, don& #39;t push them.
these are things that have been said to me or suggested to me that have helped me. this may not work for every person who self harms, but i hope it will help somebody who& #39;s struggling.
reminder that i love you and you& #39;re so strong !!!!! <3
//end of thread
