ive always been conflicted bc i know i want to be a mother but motherhood today (also especially in the US, considering lack of health care, child care, and an inhumane maternity leave) just sounds so miserable

like i wish i lived in a commune or something where a bunch of ppl help take care of my baby. i feel like american society especially is so focused on the individual that there's lack of community. like i really can't raise a child on my own, even if my husband is there

and SO many women complain about losing their identity as people after they have children. like all theyve been reduced to is "mom" by everyone-- their kids, their husbands, society. men almost never complain about that

im a wierdo and i listen to motherhood/parenting podcasts from time to time and i HATE what i call "mom humor", where a mom is like "my husband? doing THE DISHES??? without me asking?? pinch me i must be dreaming "

like literally, someone slap me if i become a mom and i make jokes about my husband being an adult and helping me out with the house and kids without it being an ass-kissing ceremony

ali wong once said "it takes so little to be considered a great dad...it takes so little to be considered a shitty mom". i don't think i can handle the toll of double standard parenthood

this thread went from "i'm on the fence" to "why im not gonna be a mom ever"