Had a thought, any grief and emotional pain is mine alone.

No one can do the inner healing for me. I must heal myself. Spreading the pain or burdening others won’t make the pain go away.

Of course asking for help is important, support thru the healing process.

I go to the doctors for a cut so they can clean it and stitch it up, wouldn’t make any sense for them to cut themselves too. Same with emotional pain, supporting eachother is helpful but taking on the grief of others wouldn’t get rid of it.

I go to therapy not for my therapist to take my problems away, but for her to be an objective person to listen to and help me sort out my feelings and pain. To then find forgiveness acceptance, repentance, any tools to resolve my own pain or grief #endthestigma

Even tho the emotional pain is mine alone. I am not alone. And every smile, every kind word, every joke, every laugh, it all adds up and makes it a little easier to get thru. Everyone who has done this for me, thank you for sharing your light with me when I was dim.

When I felt unlovable, unworthy, shameful and undeserving. People saved me, my Love ones and God saved me from myself. I make it a point to be kind. Bc whether I knew it or not I have the power to heal and my words&actions matter

A little kindness from a stranger eased my pain. I learned if I could do the same for myself, I would no longer be dependent on others to give me my “fix”. That was a whole other thing,back thenI craved validation and being generous to others in hopes they would be kind in return

For me that kindness gave me purpose, gave me meaning. If I continued to people please and be generous then I would get what I wanted: positive feedback/validation.

I was living my life for others, not for me. I was living my life empty, I still didn’t heal myself yet, I was waiting on others to save me. I became codependent in my relationships.

I had to learn in therapy and separating myself in my relationships to discover who I was. I had to stop looking outwards and begin looking inside myself at my pain. Confront it and sooth it with my own kindness, compassion and love lots of tears and anger came up

Each time anger pain comes up, I take a breath and remember to speak my worth and everything positive about myself and my life. Speak my thankfulness. Speak the pain and validate it for what it was. Speak forgiveness to myself for how long I let the pain hurt and consume me.

My life is a healing process. If I’m living then I’m healing. I deserve love. We all deserve love, it’s about time we know we can give it to ourselves. There is always enough