this is a really good take.

If you completely and ignore cisheterosexism as an axis of power. And that's where the divide lies. Those who understand that heterosexuals are a powerful class of people and thus women who are heterosexuals occupy a dominant class of people https://twitter.com/juiciestofjays/status/1303232040276557824

I'm going to continue to make good faith attempts to engage

This is not a binary woman versus man issue

it is a multidimensional cis hetero woman vs. cis Gay man issue which implicates cisheteronormativity in general

Besides, people who present marriage to gay men as "endangering women" are revealing hidden biases and contempt for gay men.

Marriage to men is dangerous, marriage to men who are gay is not *more* dangerous, so what is this coded "endangering women" talk

Ultimately one side is just unable to see themselves as oppressors

that side is cishet women, and so the analysis that we use to come to a conclusion structurally based on power is just not there

Because they believe that women are perpetual victims