a thread of my opinions that people don’t want to hear.

this was definitely a stolen idea, so i take zero credits for the idea of making this thread. i apologize for any grammatical errors as well.

1. l*rry isn’t real and people don’t want to accept the fact that L has openly said he was straight and l*rries (not all of them) make jokes out of him saying he’s straight. since he has said he is straight nobody should be talking about his sexuality until further notice.

shipping people you think looks cute together is fine. nobody has a problem with that, but forcefully pushing a relationship that isn’t real or won’t happen to be real can be damaging to the mental health of both people involved. (this is coming from an ex l*rrie)

also it can damage your own mental health. i think if you can devote all your time to a ship and finding proofs then you can take the time to step back and think about how toxic it is to invade the privacy of your stan(s) and how toxic your actions can be for everyone around you.

2. OT5 are not the the same playing level as solo artist and shouldn’t be set on the same playing field because it’s restricting the more successful artist to grow and make the less successful work up to the same point which is impossible in a short frame of time...

i don’t mean it in a negative way or towards any certain member of the group but telling a solo stan to stop comparing them and their success is just as toxic as putting them on the same playing field but some people aren’t ready for that conversation.

everyone’s level of ‘success’ is defined differently. there isn’t a set restriction to someone’s success and nobody is gonna be the same so to put all five boys into a frame where they have to be equal is unfair for the more successful artist. harry is up for a grammy.

instead of coming up with ways on trying to either get your stan higher up or equal to that level of success we should all work together to celebrate instead of saying they should all be equal and they should all be up for a grammy as well. you kind of sound like the victoria

justice meme by saying that. when i say that the others don’t have the same level of success it’s not me hating on them it’s you taking the message i’m trying to send out of context for your own benefit to use as proof for the term “toxic, harries, henries, herpies, etc.”

i have been guilty in the past of trying to put them on the same playing field and i am 100% owning up to those past actions. i have also been guilty in the past of using the term “toxic” when it i shouldn’t have.

3. the term “toxic ___” shouldn’t even be a thing. it’s immature and disrespectful to victims of toxic relationships to be throwing the term around when someone disagrees with your opinion. having a different opinion as someone makes you unique and we should normalize.

argreeing to disagree on opinions instead of calling each other insensitive names and making insensitive jokes. at the end of the day we are all different and we shouldn’t be put into the standards of agreeing with everything people say unless it’s an issue where it’s problematic

and it negatively affects you or others around you. you set the standards for yourself of what you can agree to disagree with or address as wrong and respectfully debate about.

4. if you don’t like another member of the group just don’t speak on it. this is controversial but really it’s ignorant to speak on someone you don’t know enough about. whether that be the stan or their fans, unless it’s negatively affecting everyone around you and you.

an example of what i’m trying to say is say that someone was being problematic and saying something ignorant and their fans didn’t care. i think that you should be allowed to respectfully (you define your own terms of respect) call them out and bring attention to the situation.

nobody is innocent. we have all done something problematic that we can’t change, it’s what we do to better ourselves in the future that makes the difference and what’s important. if someone does something wrong or problematic call them out and grab the attention of others.

this isn’t me saying that we shouldn’t call out people who say offensive and problematic words, but if you are unnecessarily throwing hate terms to other stans to make your stan look better than your the issue. there’s better ways to praise your stan then to bash others.

these are the only opinions that i can think of right now but if you have something you want to ask my opinion on i’m fully open to responding to how i feel.

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yes i realized now i said that using “toxic” shouldn’t be a thing but what i meant by using toxic when being insensitive and not when it comes to actual toxic actions.

*by using toxic in the terms of being insensitive