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This thread really made me think. For me, it was one of those rare moments when the universe just slaps you in the face and shakes you awake. /1 https://twitter.com/notcapnamerica/status/1303039186568704001">https://twitter.com/notcapnam...
Yesterday, I spent a glorious day in nature with my husband. Every moment was like water for a thirsty soul. /2
And then we watched âA River Runs Through It.â Perfectly lovely and wholesome film, but it dug under my skin and made me unfathomably sad. /3
I recognize now that the father/son dynamic in that movie is a perfectly drawn illustration of my relationship with my own father. He is a good and honest manâwith flaws to be sureâbut like the sons in this movie, we have never met on common ground for any length of time. /4
Not because we donât love and accept each other, but because we were each taughtâin ways both overt and subtleâto suppress our feelings at all costs. /5
In my head, I hear myself saying (wrt my daughter and my husband), âThey need me to be strong and sure so they feel safe.â And I realize, thatâs probably what my dad was taught too. Itâs what a lot of us are taught about being a man. /6
This thread made me recognize the pattern. And maybe thatâs the first step in breaking it. Thank you, Chris, for the opportunity to self-reflect. Iâve got some work to do. /end
