A lot of women have genuine intentions to protect other women from pain, but the way they do that is by trying to force us to see men through the lens of their painful experiences with men.

I will not ingest your hatred for men and I would appreciate if you’d stop.

A thread.

As a Black woman, it really is painful to be on the receiving end of Black women trying to make me hate Black men. Listen, I understand pain. I understand what it is to be in pain as a result of emotional wounds from a Black man.

I have been hurt by so many Black men in so many different ways. And tbh I have never been hurt by a man of any other race.

However, here’s what’s I know...

I know that Black men being the only ones to have caused emotional pain has more to do with proximity than their Blackness. If I was around any other race of men for the majority of my life the same thing would result because of proximity.

It is very unlikely for you to be hurt by someone who is not in close proximity to you. I have also been hurt by only Black women, not because of their Blackness, but because of proximity.

I say all this to say, let’s heal and stop projecting our wounds and hatred onto future generations under the guise of “protection”.

If your protection breeds hatred, you need to reassess your methods and biases.

I have been hurt by many Black men, but I have also been loved & protected by many Black men. Even the Black men that caused me the most emotional pain and trauma have all at one point contributed to my happiness and protection.

That’s hard for many to understand but it’s true.

I love Black men.
I love Black men even though one or two or three Black men have hurt me.
I will love Black men even if another hurts me.

There is nothing that the internet or any hurt woman can tell me to make me hate Black men.