OK NO BUT THE WAY THAT THIS ONE PANEL OF OIKAWA’S MOM IN A WAY PERFECTLY EXPLAINS HIS PHILOSOPHIES..???? his mom has always taken him seriously and in turn taught him that he IS to be taken seriously no matter what others think. +

his mom who understood how much volleyball meant to him from a young age & didnt minimize his feelings to “a child’s petty emotions” or his passion to “a childish phase”. her taking him seriously when others wouldnt taught him that what he felt and knew about himself was valid

IT RINGS LIKE KAZUYO “NOBODY UNDERSTANDS WHATS IMPORTANT TO U BETTER THAN YOU DO” UGHFHBF TOBIO/TOORU PARALLELS AGAIN HEAD IN HANDS BUT ANYWAY

him attending seijoh, and then him going to argentina, these are all very self-confident and well-thought out choices. he didnt do these things out of pettiness he did it because he believed that it was the right choice for him.

EVEN when others thought he should go to a different high school, EVEN when others thought he was crazy for going to argentina. his mom apologized EVEN when others wouldve thought it was silly for him to be upset over.

he could make those decisions bc he learned from a young age from his mom to validate his thoughts first and foremost and value his own opinions and feelings and remain confident in his ability to know himself.

but here’s the kicker apologizing to kids helps them learn that people (specifically adults) arent infallible and also helps them identify & understand emotions. altho he learned to value his own opinions he also learned that people (including he himself!) are flawed

so when he overworks himself in kitaiichi and gets told off by iwaizumi he’s able to quickly recuperate BECAUSE HE’S ALREADY LEARNED THAT EVERYONE IS FLAWED AND THAT HIS MISTAKE DOESNT MAKE HIM LESS WORTHY OF ANYTHING IT JUST MAKES HIM HUMAN

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furudate using family members to make their characters more fleshed out had BEEN DONE! LOOK AT TOBIO man ... Man

and yes Obviously we know that ur parents and childhood mold u to who u are i just think its cool to look at how furudate did it in One panel and After a lot of his character development already happened

“dont u forget this worthless pride of mine” hits in this context.. knowing that he has not only never considered his pride worthless but that it was never even pride that drove his actions it was the gift of self assurance that his mom helped give him