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i know i& #39;m preaching to the choir here but i cannot imagine a more worthless activity than throwing a party to announce to your terminally bored friends and family that you decided what gender you& #39;re going to coercively assign your child before they& #39;re even born
imagine trying to come out as trans to your parents knowing they threw a "gender reveal party" with fireworks and a cake with pink filling. what that act says about how they feel about your gender, that it& #39;s like some cute commodity that they feel a sense of ownership over
even cis people who make a lot of noise about being allies and how if their baby turns out trans they& #39;ll be supportive still participate in the literal inciting act that defines "trans person" as a separate and lesser category
it& #39;s like jabbing your child with an old shard of broken glass you found in a dirty gutter and saying "if they get sick i& #39;ll be so supportive." folks!!! my guy!!!! you can& #39;t brag about solving a problem you created!!!!!
you can& #39;t raise your kid with a "plan B" for if they Might be trans. you have to understand that the life of a trans person is defined by the perception that they are an exception to a rule. you have to raise them as if that rule never existed, to the maximum extent possible
i know that makes some people uncomfortable. i feel like this was a nuclear hot take until pretty recently, even among some trans folks. even people who understand the harm that comes from assigning gender sometimes still, on a gut level, view it as rooted in measurable reality
it& #39;s not! it& #39;s just stuff we made up. clothes don& #39;t care who wears them. toys don& #39;t care who plays with them. names don& #39;t care who uses them. hormone pills don& #39;t care who takes them. underneath this all there are just humans with bodies. let them find their own terms to live on
