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In stories about Love, they don’t often show you the real work that comes with it. Whether it be romantic or platonic relationships. It’s often nice to dream of the ideal thing, but I think it’s why, sometimes, a lot of friendships/relationships fail b/c of that idealized image.
They don’t show you the choices you make to keep the love around. The work that you have to do in order to cultivate it. Falling in love is easy, but it’s so much harder to keep it and let it grow.
I’m hopeful part of my comic will have room for that to be shown.
I’m hopeful part of my comic will have room for that to be shown.
A part of growing a relationship means loving yourself. It means you have to work on yourself too. B/c if you aren’t treating yourself with love and choosing to love yourself too, and thereby strengthening what you give, it can potentially undermine the love you receive and give
It can make it harder to understand when those who love you are giving you constructive criticism to help you grow. (This is different than criticism meant to hurt.) it can make it harder to identify why something isn’t working and how to make it better.
You’ve got to be willing to understand that the way people communicate won’t always be similar to yours. And so you work to understand and see how you and the other(s) can make it work for your relationship/friendship.
Same goes for how they show and express that love too
Same goes for how they show and express that love too
Loving yourself and respecting yourself is foundational because those problems you hold near and dear can wind up coming out in ways you may not wat them to because it, understandably, can be easier not to deal with them and hope the relationship/friendship will fix it
But if you don’t feel you’re worthy of that love, or that it’s worth working on. esp any love/acceptance you give yourself, it makes it harder to believe what the other says.
But
It’s okay to ask for help in learning HOW to love yourself. And that’s where your partner(s) help
But
It’s okay to ask for help in learning HOW to love yourself. And that’s where your partner(s) help
But you can’t expect them to do everything, you also have to do your footwork otherwise it’s a temporary bandage for a long term problem.
This may sound harsh, but this is also coming from someone who has been here through that and is still working to be better too
This may sound harsh, but this is also coming from someone who has been here through that and is still working to be better too
Idk why I typed this thread out, but it was one of those random thoughts that needed to come out, I think
Overall: Everyone is worthy of being loved, but that has to be something you strive for in and towards yourself too
