I felt the need to make this thread because I’ve seen some Monbebe/Wenee dictating how other people cope with everything that happened back in October. Please know that EVERYONE copes differently and that doesn’t make them any less of a fan. Take me for example:

You all know how much I love MX and how much I will ALWAYS love MX. I fought for them endlessly. I fought for Wonho endlessly. I spent so many nights staying up till 8 am just tweeting hashtags and doing everything I could to bring him back. And emotionally I struggled a lot

It took a toll on me physically, mentally, and emotionally. For a while I couldn’t listen to certain songs because it caused my anxiety to rise and it still does sometimes. I still struggle coping at times. It’s definitely caused me trauma. It was very traumatic for many of us

I needed a way to cope and that’s where The Boyz come in. Sometimes, I don’t know if I should put it this way, but sometimes webebe land gets very intense and overwhelming and I just need a get away from the overwhelming emotions. It sometimes gets to a point my anxiety spikes

The Boyz have become my getaway when things get hard. Sometimes webebe land still hurts and Deobi land is comforting that pain I feel. MX will always be my #1 ult and I’ll always love them more than anything but sometimes I need to getaway and cope. The wound still feels fresh

I will be honest and say sometimes it still really hurts and causes war flashbacks and I just needed something to help numb my pain just a little bit and The Boyz do exactly that. They take my mind off the pain even if it’s only for a little while. They give me so much happiness!

I definitely don’t want it to seem like I don’t love MX because I absolutely do! It’s just hard sometimes you know? It’s overwhelming at times and I don’t know how to make it stop hurting and The Boyz they genuinely help me so much. They have become a light in my life!

The Boyz help me cope with everything inside and outside of stan twitter. And just because I put a lot of focus on them currently doesn’t mean I’m any less of a Monbebe or a Wenee. Just because I don’t post as much as did before doesn’t mean I’m not supporting them because I am!

You don’t have to post 24/7 to be a true fan. I still stream and I still hype up all their content. I still try my best to get albums when I’m financially able. MX is still my #1 ult! I’m just still learning to cope. I’m still trying to heal a wound that keeps getting reopened

Please understand if I don’t post as much about them these days it’s not because I don’t love or support them. It’s actually the opposite. I loved and supported them so much that I let my mental health get to a bad place because I wanted to do everything I could to bring him back

I stayed up night after night posting hashtags and crying my eyes out waiting to hear some good news. I had a concussion when this first happened and I still stayed up all hours of the night tweeting hashtags. I loved them so much I put them above myself and my health

So please don’t dictate people’s feelings or ways of coping. Don’t invalidate how others feel. Just because some people can easily move on and accept everything doesn’t mean everyone else can easily do that. Understand that this situation affects everyone differently

This is where “everyone copes differently” comes in. My way of coping was to focus on something that brings me happiness and makes me feel better. One day I will hopefully heal this wound but as of now it still hurts. Please don’t invalidate how others feel or cope with things

And most importantly don’t make anyone feel like any less of a fan for coping in the best way possible for them personally. Instead encourage them to do whatever helps them cope and feel better. Never make anyone feel like a bad fan for coping the best way they know how too!

I genuinely love The Boyz more than I ever thought was possible. They have become such a huge comfort and happiness place for me. They give me so much happiness and hope for better days! They will be the reason I will heal from this so don’t invalidate how others cope with things

Please be considerate and understanding! Love and support those who are still learning how to cope instead of calling them a fake fan or making them feel bad for the way they are coping! Let’s do our best to be more understanding of those who still need time to heal those wounds!