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This is a lot. Facebook culture is really trash. https://twitter.com/sheeraf/status/1302264801595252736">https://twitter.com/sheeraf/s...
Employees without children are taking about what& #39;s "unfair", as parents get more support during a global pandemic. But they don& #39;t have shit to say any other time when they& #39;re clearly at an advantage. Fuck outta here. Do you know how livid I would be?
This is the problem. It& #39;s not the parents who are asking you to do more work. It& #39;s your bosses. I guarantee you that parents support you in calling bullshit on that. Choosing to direct that anger towards parents is a choice, and a fucked up one. https://twitter.com/JillFilipovic/status/1302271079780581377?s=19">https://twitter.com/JillFilip...
Here& #39;s the thing y& #39;all. We need to stop talking about "fairness". Things will never be "fair", because people have different circumstances and need different things. In a community that is actually focused on equity and support for all, "fairness" isn& #39;t even a goal.
What you can do though is *ask* for what you *need*. Stop expecting it to come to you magically out of some idea of what& #39;s fair. Stop looking at what other people get, and advocate for *your* needs. And expect your coworkers/community to show up in solidarity to support you.
Let be be extra clear about something. Taking time off to care for your children is *not a vacation*. Parents and caregivers *also need mental health days*. We just *don& #39;t have a choice*. So even if you& #39;re trying to be "fair", you& #39;re still failing. https://twitter.com/everettmaus/status/1302346210980720641?s=19">https://twitter.com/everettma...
The issue is that parents want to show up for work just like everyone else but we *can& #39;t*. It is very different from saying that you have personal challenges that are impacting your work. We still have those too. And *also* we have tiny humans to care for who have nowhere to go.
So you live alone and you& #39;re depressed? There are single parents who are fucking depressed and still have to care for a child. It& #39;s not about who has it worse. It& #39;s not about dismissing other people& #39;s real issues. Parents still have *all* of those.
People like to talk about parents like we& #39;re a different species. Like we don& #39;t suffer from the same thing everybody else does. People like to list their hardships like they somehow don& #39;t apply to parents. And a lot of it is bullshit.
All these folks talking about living alone and being depressed. We& #39;re gonna pretend you didn& #39;t say explicitly that& #39;s what you wanted? We& #39;re gonna pretend you didn& #39;t make those comments about how you "couldn& #39;t imagine" dealing with the "chaos" you see in my house? FOH.
The world changed in an instant for *everybody*. It& #39;s okay to say that your life choices have created some hardships in this moment that you couldn& #39;t have anticipated. That& #39;s real. What we& #39;re not gonna do is act like you had sympathy for my life choices before. Because you didn& #39;t
I just don& #39;t have any now patience for this foolishness. The things that parents are asking for, things that we *need* in order to cope, do not have to take anything away from childless people. It& #39;s y& #39;all that are treating this like a zero sum game.
The thing a lot of y& #39;all are missing is that the situation for parents isn& #39;t even going to be solved by getting a few weeks leave. It is *ongoing*. Schools aren& #39;t safe and won& #39;t be for an indefinite amount of time. There are few other options. The lack of childcare is a *crisis*.
Y& #39;all have no idea what parents are going through in order to show up at work, *on top of* dealing with the same deteriorating mental health as everybody else. A child is not a magic get out of depression free card.
