Y’all still sleep so I can rant about this now. I HATE purity theology and soul ties culture. Aside from it being reserved seemingly for girls and women, I have yet to see a sound theological base. For a God that wipes your slate clean at each impasse, why would your soul be TIED

I do think that there is an energy exchange, as with any exchange with a human being. People can shift your space. However, implying that we have to be “holy and just” to be deserving of our “Boaz” has gotten so many so far from confidently walking into purpose

Denying a whole side of yourself because you think that’s what God ordained and I just can’t. I recently reconnected with someone and they reminded me of how I thought moving and living with my current partner was so sinful and I was terrified I wouldn’t be blessed

She thankfully reminded me then (and again to laugh https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😂" title="Gesicht mit Freudentränen" aria-label="Emoji: Gesicht mit Freudentränen">) that God can make it clear when we are out of Their will and that this was clearly the one for me. Purity theology had done such a number on me this only scratches the surface

And I think about the utility of the theology. What does it actually produce? What fruit does it bear? What I see.... I dislike. Lots of judgment. Lots of “well if you ___, you will get ____” and the issue there is when that does not happen (partially)

That feeling one gets when they followed the rules and did it right and still get hurt/lied to/cheated on makes people spiral into “what did I do to deserve” and they often cite sex or something physical in the church, instead of “this person was wrong and I can grow but didn’t

Deserve it.” I just.... clearly dislike it. I’m trying to stop saying hate but I have not seen many positive outcomes from it. If any. I think it is patriarchal. I think it isn’t what God imagined.