Tell me when we& #39;re ready to discuss how men frame basic aspects of meaningful interaction as necessarily & #39;inferencing& #39; deep love just because they haven& #39;t learned real vulnerability and ways of showing care under patriarchy. https://twitter.com/_misterenigma/status/1300895338405023744">https://twitter.com/_misteren...

Men really be like, "I communicated frustration, so you MUST mean a lot to me." Or, "I have a basic emotional response to you so obviously I& #39;m in love."

And it& #39;s concerning for so many reasons.

The proper word is & #39;inferring,& #39; not & #39;inferencing& #39; but whatever lol.

It& #39;s not even inferential (based on sound logic + evidence). Rather, cishet men ask their partners to presume, assume, and make the problematic leap of conflating basic communication practices w/ romantic love.

(1) It suggests that romantic relationships are the only site of emotional openness, awareness, and communication. In which case, are you treating your familial and platonic relationships with proper care and intention?

(2) Your norm of bottling your emotions or feeling unsafe to vent doesn’t mean that your partner has to be grateful for whatever you offer. Especially when you& #39;ve probably tasked her with the labor of ‘teaching’ and ‘growing’ you into a healthy relationship with your emotions.