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desexualisation ≠ asexuality
"X makes ppl think group Y is asexual"
1. that would not necessarily be a problem for you if you didn& #39;t think being asexual was bad*
*it is, of course, always bad to assume that any group of people is a monolith. But that& #39;s not specific to asexuality only.
1. that would not necessarily be a problem for you if you didn& #39;t think being asexual was bad*
*it is, of course, always bad to assume that any group of people is a monolith. But that& #39;s not specific to asexuality only.
2. regardless of which group/community you& #39;re talking about, some people in it will be asexual (unless you& #39;re talking about allos specifically)
3. asexuality is about attraction and does not automatically dictate whether someone can, does, or wants to have sex
and ime that& #39;s what people& #39;s (harmful) assumptions are usually centered on:
and ime that& #39;s what people& #39;s (harmful) assumptions are usually centered on:
not "this person must not feel sexual attraction (but may still have sex)"
but rather "this person must be unable to have or enjoy sex" and/or "I can& #39;t imagine this person being sexually desirable to others"
and that& #39;s desexualisation, not asexuality
but rather "this person must be unable to have or enjoy sex" and/or "I can& #39;t imagine this person being sexually desirable to others"
and that& #39;s desexualisation, not asexuality
Desexualisation (like sexualisation) takes away someone& #39;s agency in order to present them in a certain way (regardless of whether that& #39;s how they want to be seen).
I see this a lot wrt disability where people go "disabled people aren& #39;t asexual!"
and of course not all disabled people are asexual!
But *some* are, and that& #39;s okay! I& #39;m disabled and ace and that& #39;s not harmful to the community! My being ace is not a problem!
and of course not all disabled people are asexual!
But *some* are, and that& #39;s okay! I& #39;m disabled and ace and that& #39;s not harmful to the community! My being ace is not a problem!
Desexualisation, on the other hand, *is* a problem because it takes away your ability to define and express yourself.
Anyways tune in again whenever for a breakdown of why "of course they have sex, they& #39;re human!" is also not a great thing to say lol
