So I ended things with a guy I had been talking to for only a month because he was constantly monitoring me and getting mad over seeing me on the dating apps, checking how far away I was, etc. Big red flags, especially for someone you just started talking to.

But when I called him out on these things, he acknowledged it was wrong, so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. But he kept monitoring me, followed my Twitter, kept getting upset over things.

One time, I made it clear that was not okay, and we had been talking for less than a month and that we weren't dating and were just getting to know each other, and we had only seen each other 2-3 times. I was very frustrated and knew it wasn't heading in a good direction.

I gave him another chance, let things settle down, and we had plans to meet up again and do like a couples massage, like an actual date where the previous get-togethers was just a hangout. We had relationship talks, and I told him that I wanted to establish a connection first.

But when I was busy for a whole weekend with my sister's wedding, where I had no service, he got upset that I wasn't messaging him and would abruptly go without messaging him back and that I should have communicated that I was busy.

After I told him I had my sister's wedding.

That wedding was all weekend, no service, and I was constantly working to make sure it went smoothly because she had to lean on family after the pandemic ruined her original plans.

So this guy, he gets upset that I wasn't talking to him.

He tried to pull the whole "i miss you" thing when i'm like...we barely know each other, and I'm focused on this wedding that I told you about. etc etc.

So after the weekend was over, I messaged him and told him essentially it wasn't working out. Granted, it'd been 4 weeks.

And he blows up, starts attacking me, says very hurtful things just to hurt me, while I'm telling him that how he feels is valid but I also have made my decision. Pretty toxic stuff, and he even agreed things weren't going in a healthy direction, so like...wtf?

Anyway, we end the conversation, and a few days later he says he wants to talk again. I talk with him, we agree on a lot of things about what went wrong, and I told him it'd be cool to stay in touch. This happen last weekend, the weekend before that was when I ended things.

Everything seemed good. Shared some memes with each other. Kept my distance, though, to make sure he knew exactly where we are. He even admitted that how he reacted was wrong and he said things he didn't mean and was just lashing out. Cool, that's great, glad you realized it.

AND TODAY, I POST ABOUT BEING GHOSTED (which was a misunderstanding and was for someone I was planning on meeting for the first time) AND THIS MOTHERFUCKER TEXTS ME WITH A SCREENSHOT OF THE TWEET CALLING ME A PIECE OF SHIT AND I'M LIKE FLABBERGASTED

First of all, you're CLEARLY not over me ending things after all of the red flags you were throwing in my face. Secondly, YOU'RE STILL MONITORING ME??? WTF??? Thirdly, we weren't dating, we just talked for a month, we met each other 3 times...wtf? Seriously, gays, why?

Like, I think he's upset because I told him it's not the right time. BITCH I MEANT FOR YOU, and for us, and like if we had met at a different point where you knew how to act grown when getting to know someone you're interested in, it'd be different. It is not your time.

And trust, this boy needs to learn a few things. He brought up his exes so much, he talked about cheating on his ex and his ex being on dating apps, fucking his ex a month before meeting me, with all of the monitoring.

You got something you gotta figure out, obviously.

You haven't come to terms with your previous relationships or processed them, you haven't gotten over them, and there is SO MUCH that you need to get past if you want to date anyone, especially me who knows what he wants, knows his feelings, and doesn't need no man.

Anyway, that's my rant. He's blocked so he won't be seeing this but know that I told him very similar things.

MEN! WHY ARE YOU LIKE THIS?

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