In the 1780s, the Commissioner for Wines for the King of France (acc. to this book anyway) visited Scotland and was guest of Maclean of Torloisk in #Mull @geologymull . Here is an account of a dinner he had with Maclean:

"At dinner, the lady of the house did the honours (...)"

"and served everyone. The first toast is given without delay; it is still the mistress who is in charge of the ceremony. She is brought a great cup filled with port (the grace-cup) and drinks first to the company's health and sends the cup to one of her neighbours (...)"

"and from one to another it goes round the table... The cloth is taken up after dessert, and the table, of polished mahogany, appears in full brilliance. It is soon covered with decanters of English glass, full of port, sherry and madeira, and great pitchers of punch (...)"

"Then a profusion of small glasses is set out for everyone. In England the ladies leave the table as soon as the moment arrives for the toasts. Here it is different: they stay for half an hour at any rate, and rightly share the gaiety where, ceremony being set aside (...)"

"the Scots openheartedness and friendliness can show. It is certain the men gain by it, while the ladies do not lose. The health of each lady is drunk, to the patrie, to liberty, to the happiness of mankind, to friendship (...)"

"We foreigners drank more than once to our good friends, the Highlanders, who answered in chorus 'To your friends of France!' and, more quietly, in sweet madeira, 'To your ladies!' The ladies then go to order tea..."

"(Later) there is music and talk, reading of somewhat ancient newspapers, and weather permitting, a walk. Such is the life that one leads in a country where there is no road, and not a tree."
#Mull

The note about different customs in Scotland compared with England with regard to women at dinner has been noted many times in the 19th century.

There is a quote from the time, c.19th century:

"The average Scot, unless he has passed through an Anglican education, is much more habituated to female society from early youth than is the Englishman"

I should add that I do not agree or disagree with the above, rather it's just how people at the time seem to have seen things

See also a quote from the Spanish diplomat Pedro de Ayala, writing in 1498 on Scotland:

"The women are courteous in the extreme. I mention this because they are really honest, though very bold. They are absolutely mistress of their houses and even of their husbands (...)"

"(...) in all things concerning the administration of their property, income as well as expenditure. They are very graceful and handsome women. They dress much better than here [England] and especially as regards the head-dress, which is I think the handsomest in the world"

I share this as another example of foreign visitors & commentators seeing different cultural attitudes & customs for women in Scotland (not necessarily better or more equal by any means), though it was from an earlier period