I.e. she trivializes sex and removes the drama and peril from it (two things that nerds can’t stand). “Naked morning coffee chat” is precisely the nerd fantasy of sex, it’s totally mundane and therefore approachable. https://twitter.com/wesyang/status/1301916423778791424

distinction to be made here is that between eroticism and fetish/porn. It actually is normal to eroticize otherwise typical scenarios with a lover (this is called “a date”), but the nerd explicitly fetishizes, in a pornographic way, these things. https://twitter.com/ThracianRapist/status/1301925036333375490?s=20

Going out on a coffee date with a girl you like is a (potentially) erotic scenario. Going out on a coffee date where the girl is naked and touches herself is pornographic. The nerd fantasizes about one and not the other.

Again, that’s actually a relatively normal thing to fantasize about. Men are very horny after all (our best trait). But the major distinction is that the nerd fantasizes about not necessarily because it’s “hotter”, but primarily because it’s “easier” and more “approachable”.

Also because normal eroticism doesn’t do anything for porn-addicted nerds.