I have been asked by someone how I might compassionately respond to a fellow mental health worker who says in an emphatic way that seems dismissive about a service user's actions - in a team meeting - "Its behavioural". How might you constructively/compassionately respond?

"When you say its behavioural are you saying that the person is using a certain behaviour to help them feel safe? Because saying thats making me want to understand how that behaviour might have protected them in some way..."

or "I'm also aware that this person can sometimes provoke strong feelings in me and I might want to dismiss them or put them in a box, and makes me think it might be good to have a space to understand better how they try to get their needs met."

Or "sounds like they are using some powerful strategies to help them feel some control and safety and we are finding thats pressing our buttons"

or "I am wondering how we can be compassionate to the emotions/fears the person may be having that are behind this behaviour you are highlighting"

or "Are you feeling unsettled/upset by their behaviour and wanting them to think more about how their actions are impacting on others?"...(later saying) "Perhaps they too are wanting us to think about how our actions are impacting on them"