Something doesn't sit right with me about trans men blaming nonmen and their "misandry"- especially blaming trans women- for their difficulty coming out.

Are you sincerely implying other people are your oppressors because they're traumatized, angry victims of misogyny because it makes you.....feel bad about your gender?? Are those really your priorities???

I'm sorry, but if people don't trust or like you because you're a man there's a reason for it. Even if you're a trans man.

Because it probably means you're not making whatever space you're in any safer to be in for people not like you. And who's fault is that again?....

"Misandry" is literally just people telling you that they feel unsafe around you as a man.

The second you hear that, that's your cue to make moves to make that space safer, usually by asking questions. That's not your cue to flinch like you were punched when no fists are up.