Parent Blaming & PDA

THREAD:

Unless you have an #autistic child with #PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) - it's very hard to fully understand the difficulties & complexities of day to day life - both for the parents/caregivers & the child

Please don't rush to judge - parent blaming is such a toxic yet common & sometimes automatic occurrence
It takes a little more effort, but pls take the time to listen, understand & remove your assumptions - when you come across a seemingly 'bad' parent.

There will always be a reason why a parent may appear to be 'too soft' towards the child;
Why they're not 'disciplining' their 'naughty' child.
Not every child responds well to 'traditional' parenting & due to the #PDA child's extremely high #anxiety, other approaches are needed

These approaches will have evolved from years of often stressful, traumatic trials & errors (for both parent & child)
But the onlooker, relatives & a lot of professionals, know none of this or are even prepared to accept it.

So, if you see a parent struggling with their child, who seems 'out of control' - at the very least, please don't judge.

To help a little, offer a smile or ask if there's anything you can do to help with the situation

To understand more about #PDA - @PDASociety has lots of info

#PathologicalDemandAvoidance is a type of #autism and very much misunderstood. It's the "anxiety driven need to be in control"
It's often extremely difficult for the child/adult with PDA and their parents/carers to get others to understand their needs.

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