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Another Pointless Thread about ME!

Don't expect inspirational. This is me just getting feelings out.

1/almost certainly more than the last time

As a bunch of you know, I came out of a ten year marriage in springtime 2019.

I'd spent the last few years working part time and 'dadding' fulltime to support my ex wife through her degree and masters, and subsequent career.

2/are you bored yet?

When we agreed to separate, I had a 15 hour a week job, and few other prospects. My ex was gracious enough to say I could stay in the home while I tried to sort myself out.

I spent the next 7+ months looking for a full time job and a place to live.

3/ why am I doing this?

By Dec 19, I had gotten nowhere, 9 months of sleeping on a couch, feeling increasingly uncomfortable in the house, and mounting pressure from my ex to move out.

4/ Did you grab your popcorn yet?

I made the horrifying decision to move back in with my religiously fanatical and emotionally abusive parents. Although my Dad made it clear I wasn't welcome and could only stay for 'a few weeks'

5/ if you think this is oversharing, buckle up!

My Dad also told me that he hadn't enjoyed being in my company for years, because my mental health made me too difficult to handle. That one made me feel like a million bucks.

6/ Cupcake anyone?

One day I got a message from an online 'friend', who I had know for years, who owns a dairy farm in Norway. He offered me a job, a decent salary, and a place to live rent free. This seemed like the opportunity I needed.

7/ Plot twist incoming!

Scared as I was at this opportunity, I jumped at it, and 3 weeks later I landed at Stavanger airport, and began what I thought would be a new life

8/ Fuck Twitlonger...this is how to overshare!

Life was ok to start with, I enjoyed work on the farm, and I was earning money, and starting fresh.

Then shit got real!

9/ Hold onto your arm rests!

One day in Mar, The 'friend' sat me down and told me, that when he offered me the chance to relocate to another country for a job, he had 'miscalculated' how much it would cost him in taxes and insurance etc to hire me, and that he couldn't afford to anymore.

10/ Yeah, I know...

Effective immediately I was unemployed, and would have to find a new place to live. COVID had just taken the world by storm, borders were closed and I was stranded.

I had a tiny bit of money saved, and everything seemed bleak.

11/ So who wants to write the screenplay?

I started searching remote working jobs with UK companies, (not strong enough with Norwegian to find a job here), but it was slim pickings.

Over the next few weeks, I was put under more and more pressure to move out.

12/ I was thinking Hugh Jackman could play me in the movie?

I guess they expected me just to pack my shit and head out onto the streets, which I refused to do. I told them I was doing everything I could to get out, but that I wouldn't leave until I had somewhere to go.

13/ Who's a good Hollywood villain these days?

Things were super toxic, they made life as hard as they could, and I barely left my room for weeks.

Eventually I managed to get some part time online work with a company in Britain that I had worked with previously. It would be just enough to pay rent.

14/ Best Director?

Using the little I had saved, and my new income, which thankfully I could get paid every 2 weeks, I was lucky enough to fins a tiny, affordable one bed apartment that I could move into immediately.

15/ Shyamalanananaa maybe? For all these plot twists?

For the first time in 12 years, I was living by myself in my own place.

Perhaps things were looking up.

16/ Can we get John Williams to score it? He's my all time favourite.

Over the last 4 months I have had ups and downs, I picked up new clients, which boosted my income, but living in Norway on low UK wages is, let's say, problematic. I have at times gone 4-5 days without eating anything.

17/ Almost done guys, oh wait, you all left?

But, I have a roof over my head, this is the first month that I didn't run out of food and money, and I have a firm job offer back in the UK plus relocation assistance once COVID allows it.

18/ You thought this was gonna have a sad ending right?

I have some amazing friends, a community here that has supported me and shown me so much love. And an amazing little and companion in @Blue_eyedAlice who I love with all my heart.

19/ Focus on the blessings, and the shit all fades to nothing

I have a long way to go. And some days it all seems like too much. The solitude, the stress, the feeling that I'm not in control of my own life right now.

20/ The road ahead is daunting, but I know I will prevail

The feelings of inadequacy are sometimes overwhelming. But so many of you guys always boost me and make me feel strong again.

I love you all for that. Thank you so much!

21/ Well there we go. Far too much info about me, I have no regrets

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