Thread by @BigDaddyFox2, Another Pointless Thread about ME! Don't expect inspirational. This is me just [...]

Another Pointless Thread about ME!

Don& #39;t expect inspirational. This is me just getting feelings out.

1/almost certainly more than the last time

As a bunch of you know, I came out of a ten year marriage in springtime 2019.

I& #39;d spent the last few years working part time and & #39;dadding& #39; fulltime to support my ex wife through her degree and masters, and subsequent career.

2/are you bored yet?

When we agreed to separate, I had a 15 hour a week job, and few other prospects. My ex was gracious enough to say I could stay in the home while I tried to sort myself out.

I spent the next 7+ months looking for a full time job and a place to live.

3/ why am I doing this?

By Dec 19, I had gotten nowhere, 9 months of sleeping on a couch, feeling increasingly uncomfortable in the house, and mounting pressure from my ex to move out.

4/ Did you grab your popcorn yet?

I made the horrifying decision to move back in with my religiously fanatical and emotionally abusive parents. Although my Dad made it clear I wasn& #39;t welcome and could only stay for & #39;a few weeks& #39;

5/ if you think this is oversharing, buckle up!

My Dad also told me that he hadn& #39;t enjoyed being in my company for years, because my mental health made me too difficult to handle. That one made me feel like a million bucks.

6/ Cupcake anyone?

One day I got a message from an online & #39;friend& #39;, who I had know for years, who owns a dairy farm in Norway. He offered me a job, a decent salary, and a place to live rent free. This seemed like the opportunity I needed.

7/ Plot twist incoming!

Scared as I was at this opportunity, I jumped at it, and 3 weeks later I landed at Stavanger airport, and began what I thought would be a new life

8/ Fuck Twitlonger...this is how to overshare!

Life was ok to start with, I enjoyed work on the farm, and I was earning money, and starting fresh.

Then shit got real!

9/ Hold onto your arm rests!

One day in Mar, The & #39;friend& #39; sat me down and told me, that when he offered me the chance to relocate to another country for a job, he had & #39;miscalculated& #39; how much it would cost him in taxes and insurance etc to hire me, and that he couldn& #39;t afford to anymore.

10/ Yeah, I know...

Effective immediately I was unemployed, and would have to find a new place to live. COVID had just taken the world by storm, borders were closed and I was stranded.

I had a tiny bit of money saved, and everything seemed bleak.

11/ So who wants to write the screenplay?

I started searching remote working jobs with UK companies, (not strong enough with Norwegian to find a job here), but it was slim pickings.

Over the next few weeks, I was put under more and more pressure to move out.

12/ I was thinking Hugh Jackman could play me in the movie?

I guess they expected me just to pack my shit and head out onto the streets, which I refused to do. I told them I was doing everything I could to get out, but that I wouldn& #39;t leave until I had somewhere to go.

13/ Who& #39;s a good Hollywood villain these days?

Things were super toxic, they made life as hard as they could, and I barely left my room for weeks.

Eventually I managed to get some part time online work with a company in Britain that I had worked with previously. It would be just enough to pay rent.

14/ Best Director?

Using the little I had saved, and my new income, which thankfully I could get paid every 2 weeks, I was lucky enough to fins a tiny, affordable one bed apartment that I could move into immediately.

15/ Shyamalanananaa maybe? For all these plot twists?

For the first time in 12 years, I was living by myself in my own place.

Perhaps things were looking up.

16/ Can we get John Williams to score it? He& #39;s my all time favourite.

Over the last 4 months I have had ups and downs, I picked up new clients, which boosted my income, but living in Norway on low UK wages is, let& #39;s say, problematic. I have at times gone 4-5 days without eating anything.

17/ Almost done guys, oh wait, you all left?

But, I have a roof over my head, this is the first month that I didn& #39;t run out of food and money, and I have a firm job offer back in the UK plus relocation assistance once COVID allows it.

18/ You thought this was gonna have a sad ending right?

I have some amazing friends, a community here that has supported me and shown me so much love. And an amazing little and companion in @Blue_eyedAlice who I love with all my heart.

19/ Focus on the blessings, and the shit all fades to nothing

I have a long way to go. And some days it all seems like too much. The solitude, the stress, the feeling that I& #39;m not in control of my own life right now.

20/ The road ahead is daunting, but I know I will prevail

The feelings of inadequacy are sometimes overwhelming. But so many of you guys always boost me and make me feel strong again.

I love you all for that. Thank you so much!

21/ Well there we go. Far too much info about me, I have no regrets

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