anxious attachment styles often confuse the intensity in the relationship for intimacy when in reality the anxiousness is the reason for the intensity of feeling

anxious attachments have very intense emotional reactions. they often say it feels very intense. they usually move too fast bc it feels “intense” but it’s typically the anxious runner energy that either makes them feel like they need to flee or makes them want to chase

the anxious one can also struggle being in healthy relations bc they equate the intensity with love so when they’re in a healthy.. normal paced relation.. it’s “boring” or not as invigorating. they have to learn intimacy outside of intensity and anxious nerves.

i’m teaching forming healthy attachment styles in october and i go over each unhealthy attachment style and how to grow into a secure https://twitter.com/melanatedmomma/status/1301540557718614021?s=21