So, a quick story about when I put my foot in my mouth on Twitter.

A couple of months ago, there was a lot of chatter about sex workers in DC tryna out Lindsay Graham.

I tweeted out that I thought putting was wrong and that I opposed it. /1

Almost immediately, I had gay people in my mentions telling me I was wrong and why.

I thought what I said was a demonstration of allyship.

And a number of people patiently but firmly explained it wasn’t.

I wanted to shout: “I’M TRYNA HELP” and “I’M ON YOUR SIDE”
/2

How could they not see that I said what I said as an act of support?

I desperately wanted to explain myself.

Instead, I shut up and listened and learned.

I read every, single response I got to that tweet. /3

Then I came back and said:

“You’re right. I was wrong. I’m sorry and I’ll do better”.

And to a person, they all forgave me, embraced me and many remain some of my favorite Twitter mutuals. /4

I’m telling you this story because it’s HARD to sit with negative feedback

Especially when you firmly think your heart is in the right place

But if I want to EARN the title of ally I have to be able to sit with that discomfort in order to be the kind of ally that truly helps /5

I know people disagree about Kara and its cool and I respect that.

I just wanted to share what I learned when it happened to me in the hopes that we can all be better allies to one another.

Also, I don’t talk or joke about marginalized groups of which I am not a member. /fin