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#ChildAbuseAtHome
#DomesticViolence #DrunkenTorture
Have been reading a lot about it since my teens, but when I got to know about it first hand, I feel completely helpless, depressed & defeated.
Here's the story of Rasputin..
#ChildAbuseAtHome
#DomesticViolence #DrunkenTorture
Have been reading a lot about it since my teens, but when I got to know about it first hand, I feel completely helpless, depressed & defeated.
Here's the story of Rasputin..
Kid's friend Rasputin reaches out for help, gets depression diagnosis from our psychiatrist & comes over for a change of atmosphere.
Her first few days are spent heavily drugged & curled up in bed.
Slowly she gets better & both the kids help each other to manage their lows. +
Her first few days are spent heavily drugged & curled up in bed.
Slowly she gets better & both the kids help each other to manage their lows. +
I make sure that me and my wife call her parents & report her progress on a daily basis. Also narrate to them our experiences with our kid & tell them Rasputin will heal sooner than they think.
The parents are glad & shower us with gratitude & blessings.
All feel happy.
The parents are glad & shower us with gratitude & blessings.
All feel happy.
They heal together & we get a huge relief.
Slowly the kid starts opening up & tells us about her aggresive self harming (million deep scars on thigh) & numerous 'attempts'.
When asked why, she drops a bombshell. Says she was 'touched' sexually by her dad in her early teens. +
Slowly the kid starts opening up & tells us about her aggresive self harming (million deep scars on thigh) & numerous 'attempts'.
When asked why, she drops a bombshell. Says she was 'touched' sexually by her dad in her early teens. +
I report this to our common psychiatrist (with her consent) who immediately calls her parents & advices them therapy. Also advices them to take responsibility of their child & bring her back home.
Meanwhile I talk to her mom who supports her husband & says it's her imagination +
Meanwhile I talk to her mom who supports her husband & says it's her imagination +
She refuses to believe her husband can do something like that & it's her illness that's causing her to imagine all this up.
But agrees he is a semi reformed alcoholic who has a history of domestic violence & the kids (girl & boy) have grown up watching that on a regular basis. +
But agrees he is a semi reformed alcoholic who has a history of domestic violence & the kids (girl & boy) have grown up watching that on a regular basis. +
Having seen that I was being influenced by her mom's statements, Rasputin reaches out to her 21yo bro & breaks the secret to him. He assures her she would fix things & she could keep away from dad/home as long as she wants to. Girl feels better that someone is on her side. +
Within a couple of days everything changes. The family starts panicking & emotionally manipulates her to get back home threatening to give her dog for adoption. She loses it, and returns home.
At home she has regular meltdowns, does self harm & goes back into her shell +
At home she has regular meltdowns, does self harm & goes back into her shell +
She keeps in regular touch with us & I give her tips to become independent, manage situations smartly & earn the goodwill of the elders while keeping off the dad who triggers her self-harming behaviour. The parents stop talking with us, but the kid tells us everything. +
Meanwhile we were dealing with issues that our kid has been going through & took her for her doc's appointment y'day. Rasputin wanted to come to the clinic but is refused permission by her mom. My kid has a bad session with the doc & we return after a wasted appointment. +
Today early morning Rasputin calls me to say she was being taken for a traditional treatment for her constant back ache. I warned her that disc related issues aren't to be messed with by heavy massaging. It's a proven fact. But they take her anyway. +
In the facility, she is told to lie face down on a cot & wait for a lady to do the desi massage with herbal oils. But to her surprise a man comes & casually pulls her tracks down. When she protests, their driver pins her hands down. Her screams are ignored & the procedure done +
Just imagine.. an 18yo kid who is undergoing treatment for depression & is under heavy drugs is made to undergo a painful, embarassing treatment WITHOUT HER CONSENT.
After the procedure, the kid loses it and screams & shouts at the mom & driver all the way home. +
After the procedure, the kid loses it and screams & shouts at the mom & driver all the way home. +
The kid insists on getting out of the house to forget this episode & makes a huge tantrum for it. She is not allowed to meet new friends, but she somehow goes out with a couple of old ones.
While she was out, the bro, mom & driver realise that we have a great influence on her +
While she was out, the bro, mom & driver realise that we have a great influence on her +
The bro calls me & starts shouting at me for "getting all their family information by communicating with her regularly which was inappropriate".
I am shocked & gather myself to tell him to take action for my "inappropriate" behaviour or stop her sister from reaching out +
I am shocked & gather myself to tell him to take action for my "inappropriate" behaviour or stop her sister from reaching out +
When he calls again, my son explains to the son & mom that in this Covid times we helped your child 'cos ours was suffering the same thing. We aren't dying to connect with her & they could take away her phone if they were so worried. +
I called the kid, who was outside, explained everything to her (she completely broke down) & asked her to not do anything that might put us all in trouble, 'cos her folks were targeting us.
Also told her to stop contacting us for the time being.
She sounded totally broken. +
Also told her to stop contacting us for the time being.
She sounded totally broken. +
Now, I have no idea what has happened with her, no idea what she will do to get back at them & no idea if they will hospitalise/ institutionalise her to save the family honour.
My whole family feels cheated, betrayed & humiliated for trying to do something good. +
My whole family feels cheated, betrayed & humiliated for trying to do something good. +
Will I ever try to help a depressed kid again? Will my family ever take responsibility of healing a depressed kid again? I don't know.
But I'll always remember Rasputin who brought some joy & happiness to our home despite being a victim of an abusive, violent, insensitive family
But I'll always remember Rasputin who brought some joy & happiness to our home despite being a victim of an abusive, violent, insensitive family
