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#ChildAbuseAtHome
#DomesticViolence #DrunkenTorture
Have been reading a lot about it since my teens, but when I got to know about it first hand, I feel completely helpless, depressed & defeated.
Here& #39;s the story of Rasputin..
#ChildAbuseAtHome
#DomesticViolence #DrunkenTorture
Have been reading a lot about it since my teens, but when I got to know about it first hand, I feel completely helpless, depressed & defeated.
Here& #39;s the story of Rasputin..
Kid& #39;s friend Rasputin reaches out for help, gets depression diagnosis from our psychiatrist & comes over for a change of atmosphere.
Her first few days are spent heavily drugged & curled up in bed.
Slowly she gets better & both the kids help each other to manage their lows. +
Her first few days are spent heavily drugged & curled up in bed.
Slowly she gets better & both the kids help each other to manage their lows. +
I make sure that me and my wife call her parents & report her progress on a daily basis. Also narrate to them our experiences with our kid & tell them Rasputin will heal sooner than they think.
The parents are glad & shower us with gratitude & blessings.
All feel happy.
The parents are glad & shower us with gratitude & blessings.
All feel happy.
They heal together & we get a huge relief.
Slowly the kid starts opening up & tells us about her aggresive self harming (million deep scars on thigh) & numerous & #39;attempts& #39;.
When asked why, she drops a bombshell. Says she was & #39;touched& #39; sexually by her dad in her early teens. +
Slowly the kid starts opening up & tells us about her aggresive self harming (million deep scars on thigh) & numerous & #39;attempts& #39;.
When asked why, she drops a bombshell. Says she was & #39;touched& #39; sexually by her dad in her early teens. +
I report this to our common psychiatrist (with her consent) who immediately calls her parents & advices them therapy. Also advices them to take responsibility of their child & bring her back home.
Meanwhile I talk to her mom who supports her husband & says it& #39;s her imagination +
Meanwhile I talk to her mom who supports her husband & says it& #39;s her imagination +
She refuses to believe her husband can do something like that & it& #39;s her illness that& #39;s causing her to imagine all this up.
But agrees he is a semi reformed alcoholic who has a history of domestic violence & the kids (girl & boy) have grown up watching that on a regular basis. +
But agrees he is a semi reformed alcoholic who has a history of domestic violence & the kids (girl & boy) have grown up watching that on a regular basis. +
Having seen that I was being influenced by her mom& #39;s statements, Rasputin reaches out to her 21yo bro & breaks the secret to him. He assures her she would fix things & she could keep away from dad/home as long as she wants to. Girl feels better that someone is on her side. +
Within a couple of days everything changes. The family starts panicking & emotionally manipulates her to get back home threatening to give her dog for adoption. She loses it, and returns home.
At home she has regular meltdowns, does self harm & goes back into her shell +
At home she has regular meltdowns, does self harm & goes back into her shell +
She keeps in regular touch with us & I give her tips to become independent, manage situations smartly & earn the goodwill of the elders while keeping off the dad who triggers her self-harming behaviour. The parents stop talking with us, but the kid tells us everything. +
Meanwhile we were dealing with issues that our kid has been going through & took her for her doc& #39;s appointment y& #39;day. Rasputin wanted to come to the clinic but is refused permission by her mom. My kid has a bad session with the doc & we return after a wasted appointment. +
Today early morning Rasputin calls me to say she was being taken for a traditional treatment for her constant back ache. I warned her that disc related issues aren& #39;t to be messed with by heavy massaging. It& #39;s a proven fact. But they take her anyway. +
In the facility, she is told to lie face down on a cot & wait for a lady to do the desi massage with herbal oils. But to her surprise a man comes & casually pulls her tracks down. When she protests, their driver pins her hands down. Her screams are ignored & the procedure done +
Just imagine.. an 18yo kid who is undergoing treatment for depression & is under heavy drugs is made to undergo a painful, embarassing treatment WITHOUT HER CONSENT.
After the procedure, the kid loses it and screams & shouts at the mom & driver all the way home. +
After the procedure, the kid loses it and screams & shouts at the mom & driver all the way home. +
The kid insists on getting out of the house to forget this episode & makes a huge tantrum for it. She is not allowed to meet new friends, but she somehow goes out with a couple of old ones.
While she was out, the bro, mom & driver realise that we have a great influence on her +
While she was out, the bro, mom & driver realise that we have a great influence on her +
The bro calls me & starts shouting at me for "getting all their family information by communicating with her regularly which was inappropriate".
I am shocked & gather myself to tell him to take action for my "inappropriate" behaviour or stop her sister from reaching out +
I am shocked & gather myself to tell him to take action for my "inappropriate" behaviour or stop her sister from reaching out +
When he calls again, my son explains to the son & mom that in this Covid times we helped your child & #39;cos ours was suffering the same thing. We aren& #39;t dying to connect with her & they could take away her phone if they were so worried. +
I called the kid, who was outside, explained everything to her (she completely broke down) & asked her to not do anything that might put us all in trouble, & #39;cos her folks were targeting us.
Also told her to stop contacting us for the time being.
She sounded totally broken. +
Also told her to stop contacting us for the time being.
She sounded totally broken. +
Now, I have no idea what has happened with her, no idea what she will do to get back at them & no idea if they will hospitalise/ institutionalise her to save the family honour.
My whole family feels cheated, betrayed & humiliated for trying to do something good. +
My whole family feels cheated, betrayed & humiliated for trying to do something good. +
