Tips for men worried that they can’t tell if they’ve made a woman uncomfortable (THREAD): 1. never stand between a woman and the door - both literally and metaphorically. Indicate to your colleague, crush, friend, date etc. a clearly marked exit with lights along the floor. 1/?

1b. And not in a halfarsed way, not with implications that it’ll be really hurtful if she goes, not ironically or jokingly or rolling your eyes.
2.If you’re not sure whether she’s into you, it, the situation, assume she’s not, or ask straight up, with reference to point 1. 2/?

3.If you possibly can, try imagining what it’s like to be her. As though she were a fully formed human being with hopes and dreams. If you can’t imagine, ask. If you can imagine, ask anyway, maybe you’re imagining wrong. 3/?

4.If you hear about someone being “a bit of a creep”, assume an understatement of between 30% and 90%, and unpack the details with reference to point 3.
5.Collaborate with women in a professional capacity. It’s starting to look like a risk minimisation strategy. 4/?

6) this is a good time to think about this stuff (in the spare time between thinking about all the other massive and horrifying inequities and abuses in the world) because you’re not allowed to get close to anyone at all. So use this time to not send unsolicited dick pics.

Side tip: the main joy for the sender of an unsolicited dick pic seems to be in imagining the reaction of the receiver. I suggest taking this process one step further and just imagining you sent it instead of hitting the button at all.

Last: it is absolutely not fair that a minority of bad actors stink up the place for every well meaning dude who wouldn’t rape a fly. It’s no fun being on the back foot or treated as a threat. We’d love to give you the benefit of the doubt. We often do. We’re all just people