the weirdest thing has happened to me in the last 10 years where I've been introduced to people (younger than I!) who want to make sure their grandkids do well

That is a completely different perspective and it shakes you https://twitter.com/politicalmath/status/1301015428597084160

I have a lot of friends... upper-middle income people... who just care about their kids

Their attitude is "if I can leave the kid a million or three, she'll be ok" and that's where they end the thought process.

They collect their "money to help the kid" and then live selfishly

Money alone does not make for good lives

Lots of these kids have no money problems, but serious relationship problems, problems with purpose, mental problems

Their parents hit some SmartyPig financial target and then tapped out of raising them.

But if you're raising your kids so that your grandkids can have a good life, your view of things is substantially different.

Money doesn't solve problems in this scenario. Your kids need to be careful, build sustainable careers, pick good spouses, think hard about the future.

We fool ourselves when we think we're just providing for our kids. We trick ourselves into thinking that everything ends with them.

But it doesn't. Our kids need purpose. They need skills and love and to build something more than what we built.

We want them to surpass us.

That's where I see an utter failing in my community

There is no thought about our kids becoming more than we are. It's just... let's make sure they don't suffer in poverty.

Which... that's good. Suffering in poverty is bad.

But we can do so much more.