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Alright everyone this is going to be a long one, so as the very knowledgeable @stevieboebi (who, along with multiple college courses & the wonderful folks of @carmillaseries, has provided the majority of my education regarding Human Sexuality) once said...
"Hold onto your butts." https://twitter.com/EchoChelsea21/status/1300959966665347073
"Hold onto your butts." https://twitter.com/EchoChelsea21/status/1300959966665347073
Side note, go check out Stevie's Channel and Carmilla Series on YouTube, both are EXCELLENT.
1st things 1st, I think we should all agree that Twitter is far from the best platform to be having serious social, political and/or economic debates because the character limit is very...limiting...
And many people can't be bothered to create a thread to fully explain themselves
And many people can't be bothered to create a thread to fully explain themselves
And yes, Human Sexuality is considered both political (because not every gov't is willing to give unalienable human rights to LGBTQIA+ people, so until that happens it will continue to be political) & social (because Social Studies & Social Sciences literally discuss society).
So if we're going to keep talking about these things as the current/younger generations (I'm looking at you Millenials & Gen Z) we either need to put in the full work of a thread or be more willing to hear out other opinions.
Okay, now that all of that is out of the way we can talk about the topic at hand, Human Sexuality.
The two sides of the debate/argument that I constantly see are:
1) You can identify & like however you please, regardless of definition
2) You can only identify based on definition
The two sides of the debate/argument that I constantly see are:
1) You can identify & like however you please, regardless of definition
2) You can only identify based on definition
The 1st generally believes that people should be able to express & identify however they please without changing their identity & without anyone "policing" them.
The 2nd believes each sexuality has a specific definition & that going against those definitions is disrespectful.
The 2nd believes each sexuality has a specific definition & that going against those definitions is disrespectful.
The thing is that both sides of this are correct.
The issue is that both sides forget one very important key factor when discussing Human Sexuality...
Romantic Preference.
The issue is that both sides forget one very important key factor when discussing Human Sexuality...
Romantic Preference.
Generally speaking, most people equate Sexuality with Sexual Preference, but Sexual Preference is only one half of this discussion. Without also including Romantic Preference this debate/argument is going to continue until the end of time & neither side will ever win.
So what is the difference between Sexual Preference & Romantic Preference?
Sexual Preference dictates which people you are physically attracted to.
Romantic Preference dictates which people you can see yourself being with in a committed relationship.
Sexual Preference dictates which people you are physically attracted to.
Romantic Preference dictates which people you can see yourself being with in a committed relationship.
To explain both a little more simply, yet crudely, Sexual Preference is who you want to get in bed with & Romantic Preference is who you're willing to "put up with" long term (aka marriage, life partners, etcetera, I don't judge anyone for how they identify their relationships).
To give you all an example, I identify as Polysexual & Homo-Romantic.
This means I am attracted to many but not necessarily all genders, but in a long term relationship I'd prefer to be with a woman.
This means I am attracted to many but not necessarily all genders, but in a long term relationship I'd prefer to be with a woman.
To further explain why I identify as Polysexual, I originally identified as a Lesbian until I learned about identities such as Non-Binary. I personally didn't want to offend anyone by specifically identifying as Lesbian, so to me Polysexual feels more inclusive & more accurate.
So while I may find some Transgender Women (who are women & valid, let's not get that twisted) & some Non-Binary people (who are also valid) attractive, I find myself to be predominantly attracted to women who have identified as cisgendered women.
That's not a bias, it's just...
That's not a bias, it's just...
...how it's worked out over the span of my lifetime so far. I'm obviously not going to fault any of the people that I have had crushes on or any of the women that I have loved for identifying how they wish to identify, and I hope none of you will either.
So that is why, for me personally, it feels right to identify as Polysexual & Homo-Romantic.
I've identified this way for about 4 or 5 years now, but remember that before educating myself on Human Sexuality I had identified as Lesbian, and before that as Bisexual, and before...
I've identified this way for about 4 or 5 years now, but remember that before educating myself on Human Sexuality I had identified as Lesbian, and before that as Bisexual, and before...
...that as Straight (God, that's weird to even think about).
Why did I change how I identify so much?
Because Human Sexuality is NEVER a simple, concrete thing. We can try to define it as much as we want but it's a complex, fluid, living thing & it's always changing.
Why did I change how I identify so much?
Because Human Sexuality is NEVER a simple, concrete thing. We can try to define it as much as we want but it's a complex, fluid, living thing & it's always changing.
You'll have to give me time on the next part, I'm looking up a quote because I don't want to look silly 
Even if you don't keep reading after this I simply ask that you all educate yourselves on the intricacies of Human Sexuality before getting angry with people on Social Media
Even if you don't keep reading after this I simply ask that you all educate yourselves on the intricacies of Human Sexuality before getting angry with people on Social Media
Also, if anyone wishes to respond to this thread while I'm searching for that quote, please quote-tweet one of the tweets in my thread so as not to break it.
