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ok I& #39;m going to have some emotions about "circling" but I am not going to explain what it is in advance
one, because I don& #39;t fully understand it
and two, because I just want to vent and not bother actually communicating information
maybe this should go on my angry alt but
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one, because I don& #39;t fully understand it
and two, because I just want to vent and not bother actually communicating information
maybe this should go on my angry alt but
descriptions of circling that I& #39;ve read or heard from others have always been...mildly intriguing, but mostly squicked me out/made me feel somewhat wary of ever doing it
a few years ago there was a local "circling event" that FB told me a few friends were attending, and I thought about going
but then there was this other acquaintance attending and I noped the fuck out because the idea of "authentically relating" with him in the room repulsed me
but then there was this other acquaintance attending and I noped the fuck out because the idea of "authentically relating" with him in the room repulsed me
there was an opportunity to do a bit over zoom this week with somebody I& #39;m passingly familiar with
it sounded maybe interesting, I felt a little less squicked out at the thought than usual
it sounded maybe interesting, I felt a little less squicked out at the thought than usual
but ultimately changed my mind -- I am trying not to do any mind-altering or meditation-adjacent stuff seems moderately-to-highly likely to destabilize me while I& #39;m pregnant
and I suspect that I am susceptible to being destabilized by Circling
and I suspect that I am susceptible to being destabilized by Circling
today I actually watched a few videos of circling sessions
2 ten minute videos, and 10-15min of a longer one
I kind of expected to be a little repulsed by it but tried to chill tf out and suspend judgement
could not
2 ten minute videos, and 10-15min of a longer one
I kind of expected to be a little repulsed by it but tried to chill tf out and suspend judgement
could not
this stuff
feels
fake
as
shit!
feels
fake
as
shit!
I suspect that the makeup of the group matters a lot but my god what the hell it reminds me of talking to a salesperson/therapist hybrid but it& #39;s worse because it& #39;s a group setting
I can probably never actually attend a circling session bc I& #39;m pretty sure I& #39;d leave in disgust or make somebody cry in a bad way
the flavor of my disgust is similar to my disgust with most ASMR but particularly ASMR that& #39;s intimacy-oriented
I& #39;ve checked it out to see what the appeal is
blatant perversion of a real, good thing. fake cargo culting bullshit.
I& #39;ve checked it out to see what the appeal is
blatant perversion of a real, good thing. fake cargo culting bullshit.
also suspect that circling is a fucking *magnet* for the sneakiest kind of manipulative asshole
if I put myself into the shoes of someone in one of the videos I watched, I predict that I would feel cornered as hell
if I put myself into the shoes of someone in one of the videos I watched, I predict that I would feel cornered as hell
again, mostly would be fighting intense pressure to not hurt feelings, in conflict with the desire to say the cruelest shit I could think of just to get a bit of the pressure off
these feelings are also identical to the ones I had in the few kink (or heavily influenced by kink) social events I have been to
and also similar to the worst encounters I& #39;ve had in church
fake fake fake manipulative ass shit
and also similar to the worst encounters I& #39;ve had in church
fake fake fake manipulative ass shit
it is mimicking a real and beautiful dynamic of interpersonal optionality and trust that I have with some of my closest friends and loved ones
but doing it in a way that makes my skin crawl
but doing it in a way that makes my skin crawl
this is one of the videos I watched
one girl in particular was the focus of much of the segment that I saw
how *anybody* looks at this and doesn& #39;t see tendrils of creeping social pressure and coercion winding through the room is fucking beyond me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76UIf6DSvKQ&t=217s">https://www.youtube.com/watch...
one girl in particular was the focus of much of the segment that I saw
how *anybody* looks at this and doesn& #39;t see tendrils of creeping social pressure and coercion winding through the room is fucking beyond me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76UIf6DSvKQ&t=217s">https://www.youtube.com/watch...
like do you just not see it?
do you not see the *pushing* and *grabbing* at her?
do you not see the *pushing* and *grabbing* at her?
it& #39;s not like I can& #39;t have the kind of intimate social dynamic I think they& #39;re Trying to get here
I have it with a few close friends, my spouse, and other loved ones
where this kind of reporting on the interactions and meta-interactions is possible and safe and good
I have it with a few close friends, my spouse, and other loved ones
where this kind of reporting on the interactions and meta-interactions is possible and safe and good
but this is not a type of interaction that is just....good all the time and with all people!
if I ever do go to a circling event it will be to casually point out how people are being gross manipulative assholes at one another the entire time
