who can say the f word? an updated thread

first of all, the objective of this thread is educating people about subjects that arent confirmed, so do not take it offensively

arguments about what i say here are allowed on the reolies, but please no fighting

im a bi girl, and as i got to know more about my sexuality and the lgbt community, i quickly found out about fights and dilemmas on the community, mostly related to SLURS

the f word (f*gg*t), has very different origins, this paragraph explains it

so when it comes to origins, this word has been used towards bith men and women, both in pejorative and offensive ways, and both to describe a trait of someones actions or personality related

the main argument about is this word is

WHO CAN SAY THIS WORD?
-only gay/bissexual men
-everyone who identifies as one, so most of lgbt

the fact that men can say this word is as clean as water, everyone knows this word functions as a gay male slur, but should girls use or not this word? the answer is, yes and no.

why women should or not say the f word?

yes:
-women suffer from homophobic related discrimination and have been called this word too
-excluding women who suffer from homophobia is discriminating and imoral, gay women deserve rights too

no:
-culture has evolved and the f word became a slur used for mlm, so now it should only be used to describe them, then only gay men should use it between themselves
-some people defend the current definition of the word is men who have a romantic or sexual connection to men-

then only men should use the f word

this theme is problematic, and as i showed, there are perfectly reasonable arguments for both sides, which only makes this theme more complicated, if you are a lgbt woman what should you do?

-you should check on your gay men friends to know if they defend that behaviour, you will meet men that see it from both sides, the use of slurs is all about respect, so please be respectful

-at the end, lgbt is about who YOU identify as, if u identify yourself as gay and u think that gives u the right to use the slurs that belong to this community, you are technically free to use them, but as i said, dont let your ego get the best of u, check on others

-if u get called out, dont defend your behaviour nor totally stop using the word, you know your truth and who u truly are, and u can be resoectful still, this means, that once again, u need to please people and leave them comfy

-calling yourself the f word, and calling someone else the f word can have distinct endings to it, be really careful using this words
-if your bi, PLEASE DONT CALL GAY MEN BIPHOBIC if they ask you to stop

-at the end, the easiest way out is to fully avoid the f word, its not that hard, and at least yk nobody will be offended by you.

can pan, asexual, trans, etc. say the f word?

this is basically the same story, if you identify as queer, its not wrong of you to claim this words, but please stop if people ask you too, slurs are delicate and those arent always taken likely

if you need any advice about this words, the best thing u can do is ask a gay friend, and not a straight friend, since they dont have a say on this theme.

lets all spread love and positivity, if u have any question, use my dms or the replies loves