A thread on BDSM techniques. Impact-play, to be exact.
I don’t teach kink technique much anymore, because technical instruction on kinky things is easy to find now! But there are always...little refinements, that are useful. 1

I was spanking a lovely man using a system I learned as a baby domme. You see, inevitably, with any kind of impact play, some of the strokes land perfectly! But some of them don’t quite land EXACTLY correctly. So they don’t make much of an impact on the bottom. (In any sense.) 2

To address this, once you have your partner arranged as you wish, you say to them:
“I’m give you 20 strokes with this, and you’re going to count them OUT LOUD. But - you are only permitted to count the ones that really hurt. If it doesn’t really hurt? Then you can’t count it.” 3

This is a useful technique if you’re playing with a bottom you don’t know well. By giving them the power to count which strikes count and which don’t, you can quickly gauge what their overall pain tolerance is like.

For example, if you threaten them with 20 strokes, and you get to stroke #14 or so, and they just - stop counting! That means *they don’t want the impact to end* and that’s very useful to know. But they don’t have to actually *ask for it*, which some people find hard to do.

A variation on this: “I’m going to give you 10 strokes. If you take them WELL, maybe I won’t do more. But! If you DON’T take them well, you will get MORE.
Afterwards, ask them, in character, “Well? Do you think you took those strokes well for your Mistress?” Either answer works!

Now, you might think that someone would count every single tiny tap - but that’s not true. In most cases, I have found my bottoms to be *more exacting* about what constituted “a blow that should be counted” than I myself would be.
And this is why I love my work. FINI