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my baby's father is refusing to pay our child's daycare fees for the second month in a row, leaving me footing the entire bill again.
lack of affordable accessible childcare options in Alberta hurts all families, but it disproportionately harms single mothers.
lack of affordable accessible childcare options in Alberta hurts all families, but it disproportionately harms single mothers.
I only took a 3-month maternity leave after having my child. For the first 3 mo I was back at work, my child's father also contributed $0 to childcare so I was paying out of pocket. I couldn't afford to hire a nanny more than 2 days/week.
At 6 months he started giving $300/mo.
At 6 months he started giving $300/mo.
When he began giving me $300/mo for the nanny he *demanded* I provide him with an itemized list of the work I was doing so he could ensure - and I quote - "wasn't using childcare to go get haircuts or coffee with friends"
I actually did this for a few weeks before just giving up
I actually did this for a few weeks before just giving up
At 12 months my child got into a daycare. A mediator had to explain to him very slowly and clearly that he is legally obligated to pay his share of childcare expenses so I could work.
(I absolutely get coffee and haircuts during daycare hours now
)
(I absolutely get coffee and haircuts during daycare hours now
)
Before anyone @'s me that I need a court order, no kidding.
Do you know how much that costs?
Do you know much I have *already* spent taking this narcissist to court -- during which time he has STOPPED PAYING DAYCARE and lowered his child support payments by hundreds of dollars
Do you know how much that costs?
Do you know much I have *already* spent taking this narcissist to court -- during which time he has STOPPED PAYING DAYCARE and lowered his child support payments by hundreds of dollars
I am the luckiest most privileged type of single mother. I can pay the daycare bill *and* sue this man at the same time.
Most women can't.
For most single mothers, this type of abuse would plunge them and their child(ren) into poverty.
Most women can't.
For most single mothers, this type of abuse would plunge them and their child(ren) into poverty.
I still have no idea why I am paying to enforce federal law. I don't know why our "justice" system enables this man to continuously abuse me & his child.
But universal childcare would make a difference for me. It would make a bigger difference for more vulnerable women.
But universal childcare would make a difference for me. It would make a bigger difference for more vulnerable women.
Affordable accessible childcare is not only good for female participation in the workforce, closing the wage gap, and reducing poverty
it *literally* saves women from abuse.
thank you for coming to my TEDtalk.
it *literally* saves women from abuse.
thank you for coming to my TEDtalk.
