understand their reasoning for why they do what they do but don’t use that understanding to justify why you continue to allow them to mistreat you. we all have the same 24hrs & access to free resources to work on ourselves. their inability to meet u half way is not your problem.
theres only so many chances you can give people. forgiveness is great and it doesn’t always have to result in SELF NEGLECT. it takes two people to want to make it work not one doing damage control every time. value yourself & peace of mind above all. don’t make excuses for them.
sometimes they didn’t mean to hurt you. that’s true. but if they’ve done it once before & they’re doing it again. do you really think this will be the last time? why would it be? they view you as someone who provides zero consequence, they’ll continue.
they value themselves OVER you. take notes from them because you are clearly struggling in that area. “i’m self aware they aren’t” how is that your problem? “they have trauma they haven’t worked through” so do you, how is that your problem?
maybe you are insecure in your friendship or love life so you continue to make excuses for people because you’d rather suffer with them than be alone. but girl... stop
there’s so many humans out there that will treat you so much better. reciprocity & love is out there for you.

you deserve someone who doesn’t confuse you. someone that communicates openly with you, doesn’t keep secrets, checks up on you, someone who reciprocates your energy to the best of their ability. you simply deserve & it’s time for you to start ACTING like you believe that.

this is something i still struggle with today with my friends. but i need to get this message out to you and read it to myself. it doesn’t matter how much i love them or enjoy time with them, they’ve neglected me before, we talked about it.
i let them know how much it hurt me & guess what? we back again! so no. some people aren’t good at showing how much they care & i get that but effort needs to be made. if there is none, time to dip. it’s okay to admit they’re a waste of energy rn.
I expanded a bit further on instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/CEmR_3aHbF5/?igshid=w6xv2k71kkba