I think it’s a delicate subject and therefor something that deserves care in addressing but I really think everyone should think about why they find themselves tethering to men. Do you actually enjoy them (beyond an idea) or is there comfort in associating with a man?

Prior to realizing I was a lesbian I would date men because they had cars and they spoiled me and I was neglected and wanted those things but never because I actually liked them or wanted to be with them.

And I remember having this friendship with this girl and being like “oh you and I love each other so that’s enough for me and I’ll just keep having sex with men even though I am not interested in relationships with them”

And then (and this was literally a turning point in my spirit) it was the cancer full moon during cap season 2019 and I remember doing divination about something unrelated and clear as day I hear “your divine love is not going to be a man”. I was scared but I accepted.

Then February 2019, I meet my partner and I had never been in love before and we fell so hard for each other that I was in disbelief that it was happening to me and I thought “wow why have I never experienced this before” and it was because I was lying to myself!!!

My parents are so homophobic. I grew up on an island and watched lesbians be brutalized in front of me and I internalized that.

I think women can have loving, romantic and fulfilling relationships with men. I just wasn’t destined for it because I’m a lesbian (and don’t get me started on how I struggled to name myself that because cis lesbians told me I could be non binary and a lesbian)

This is what compulsory heterosexuality is. You default into heterosexuality. You feel like you are obligated to be heterosexual even when you literally do not want to be and with what we know of sexism this impacts lesbians the hardest

Love comes down to the “want” as in “if I had every single one of my needs met, would I still love this person”