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I'm tired and I'm sad and I'm angry and I don't get enough sleep. So we're going to say some things that will upset people this morning.
Sounds like fun, right?
Sounds like fun, right?
Nonbinary is not "gender number 3." It's not both. It's neither. It's "I don't fit in your little box."
But people, if they acknowledge it at all, treat it as it's own little box with its own constraints.
But people, if they acknowledge it at all, treat it as it's own little box with its own constraints.
See also: pronouns.
I have slight preferences but I don't feel any deep attachment to any of them. And I don't feel comfortable wearing them as a badge so that people can put me in their little boxes.
I have slight preferences but I don't feel any deep attachment to any of them. And I don't feel comfortable wearing them as a badge so that people can put me in their little boxes.
People are going to do it anyway. Because of what I look like. Because of how I talk. Because of how high my voice is. Because of my marriage. Because of my ethnic origins.
I don't like being made to help them.
I don't like being made to help them.
I fully support people displaying pronouns, and I insist that you respect them. But I'm really uncomfortable with the social compulsion to wear them.
I don't want to tell you what box to put me in. I don't want to live in one. I just want to be a person.
I don't want to tell you what box to put me in. I don't want to live in one. I just want to be a person.
I've never been good at defining the boundaries of who I am. I could not choose between science and engineering, classical languages and history, linguistics and anthropology. I graduated with 2 majors and was 1 course short of, I think, 3 others.
"Ah but you chose to work in one of those fields!"
What I chose was to be able to live and eat in our postmodern quasicapitalist dystopia.
It's a job, not a calling. I'm not the Slayer.
What I chose was to be able to live and eat in our postmodern quasicapitalist dystopia.
It's a job, not a calling. I'm not the Slayer.
I just want to be a person and I just want to be left alone to be who I am, whoever that is.
And, you know what?
I also get to feel disgusting and ashamed for even saying any of this, because more often than not, the little box I get put in is the one with all the benefits.
So maybe, at heart, I'm just a bigot, who wants to be left alone with his privileges.
I also get to feel disgusting and ashamed for even saying any of this, because more often than not, the little box I get put in is the one with all the benefits.
So maybe, at heart, I'm just a bigot, who wants to be left alone with his privileges.
Anyway, go read this thread. It's more important and less full of self-loathing: https://twitter.com/TheMedievalDrK/status/1300767884071841794?s=20