I-I have questions. Questions that mostly start and end with...'you're mad at us for going off the information YOU gave us, because we should have just known to taken your increasing discomfort at being being questioned as a sign that you were secretly queer and didn't know it?'

I just...I'm having a range of complicated emotions ranging from 'damn shame she feels pain from this' to 'so what, we shouldn't listen to people when they tell us how they identify just in case they discover differently later' to feeling some kinda way about how she talks

About her attraction to women. I am not asking anyone to weigh in on it and I'm not questioning her sexuality, I'm saying I personally have feelings about the way she describes it and her verbiage choice, but that could very well be me applying weight where there was none before.

Anyway, you don't get to be mad that you weren't afforded space as a queer creative when you were actively asking us to identify you as straight, and you don't get to say you were forced out of the closet when you actually got to CHOOSE to come out.

Choosing to come out because you no longer want people to misidentify you as straight is not at all the same as having the choice made for you. I've SEEN ppl outed, straight THROWN from the closet and it did NOT look like a blog post saying you're mad you have to claim your rep.

I'm not asking for a fucking purity test. I'm not demanding you hit a certain number on your queerometer, but I'm absolutely standing at the gates of 'modern artists don't get their work viewed as Queer Art until they come out as queer.'

You can't sit at your desk puffed up and upset that your work is being viewed through a Straight lens when you haven't ID'd as Queer! And the commenters look very similar as they all insist that being asked to self ID is dangerous and unfair.

I mean, what the fuck do you want from us? Yeah, it can be dangerous to be any kind of minority. Which is why I get feelings about people being mad when they're denied access to our few safe spaces and special things when being perceived as the majority already gives them access

And I will NOT be entertaining what-about fictions involving people in unsafe situations because that's not at all this topic in any way

I will say one more thing tho; Sis did the Drama Queers PROUD dropping that coming out post because THIS? You could argue about this at the bar for like a week and a half and it would cause 2 breakups, 1 hookup, and a physical fight of some kind.
10/10 bar class DRAMA