I love Becky and I’m happy for her, but I’m so angry that it came to this and that she didn’t get to come out on her own terms. I felt this exact pressure to defend my own queerness when RAMONA BLUE came out and it was deeply heartbreaking. https://twitter.com/beckyalbertalli/status/1300496126991360000

I am aware of all the privileges that come w being a bi/pan cis woman married to a cis man. I’m also very tired of our queerness being assumed/defined by our partners. I also understand the comfort of being queer & reading books by queer authors, but there has to be a better way.

Before I came out publicly re: RAMONA BLUE, the people in my life who mattered knew that I was queer, but I’ve definitely lost close family relationships over it since then. And that hurts. A lot. But I very much felt the need to prove my validity.

Basically, I’m so happy for @beckyalbertalli and I’m also very angry for her. I don’t know what the answer is. Does this mean people who don’t state their flavor of queer in their twitter bio can’t write to that experience? I truly don’t know anymore.

I don’t think people who want their queer books written by queer people are the big bad. I really just think this is a bigger, nuanced conversation that we haven’t made space for.