when women say “i hate men” we don’t mean you, unless you get offended then yes we do mean you

for the guys who aren't getting why this makes them part of the problem- when you're refusing to acknowledge that men as a gender hold power and privilege over women, and that they use this power to oppress, harm, hurt, and abuse women, YOU are upholding these privileges.

when you respond to the hurt, abuse, and oppression that women experience daily at the hands of those of your gender with anger and dismissal, you fail to take accountability for these actions.

and no, we do not care that you *specifically* did not do these things because the problem is an institutional one. institutional sexism exists because again, men, as a group, disproportionately hold power over women and use this power hurt women.

90% of rape cases are committed by men. and the ones of you who aren't raping aren't doing anything to stop these rapes either. when women vent about these institutional problems by saying they hate their abusers (who are, again, men), and you go and make the conversation about

YOURSELF, the GOOD GUY, please ask yourself who you are actually helping, or if you're just derailing the conversation, taking away the point of the post, and at the end of the day, not doing a single thing to help women or end the oppression and abuse (hint, it's the latter).

how many times have you campaigned against sexual assault? talked about the sex trafficking of women? read about how often women are murdered by their male partners? zero? once? twice? maybe even a lot! i don't care. because women still suffer from these things every single day.

for as long as men, as an institution, continue to oppress women, women have the right to speak up against that. do not go in and make that about you. especially when i know you probably haven't done anything to be an ally for women.

and no, the fact that *you, a man* haven't raped or abused any women impresses no one. because women are still being raped and abused by men.