tips if you are with a person or friends with a person who suffers from borderline personality disorder, a thread

if you love them tell them often people suffering from bpd lack emotional permanence which means we know you love us but we can’t remember what it felt like to be loved thus leaving us in need of reassurance

communication and honesty if you’re angry with them or if something they did made you sad or upset tell them we tend to overthink and find every possible sign that you’re upset with them which is why you should be honest don’t try to hide your feelings they will know instantly

ease their fear of abandonment by doing things like let them borrow something from you its reassurance you’ll definitely see each other again or when you part use reassuring phrases like “see you soon” keep talking to them when you can if possible even after parting with them

talk to your loved one and ask them to try to explain to you how they work a lot of people with bpd come from an abusive environment can therefor be more sensitive and broken than they like to admit listen to them be understanding and try validate their experiences

don’t read idiotic things that makes us out to be abusive and monstrous people with bpd are smart and creative and we love stronger than anyone our diagnosis doesn’t automatically make us into every bpd stereotype that you can find online on sites written by ableist assholes

educate yourself this is the most important thing because bpd is a very hard disorder to have in an uneducated environment realise that not all bpd people are the same some of us struggle with relationships more than others some of us can’t handle impulsivity

some of us find it physically impossible to regulate emotions and some of us are a mix of all of this or other symptoms we are all different and work differently

I hope this is helpful to all people in the bpd community I love you all and appreciate your constant love and support