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- Got elected to SYG co-co and started working with them on a whole bunch of stuff!
- Moved out of a bad flat & into a good one!
- Started playing in 3 D&D campaignsp prepared to DM a 4th!
- Began to figure out a whole lot more about myself that I had mere inkings of before... https://twitter.com/Ghostalservice/status/1299805445540982785">https://twitter.com/Ghostalse...
- Moved out of a bad flat & into a good one!
- Started playing in 3 D&D campaignsp prepared to DM a 4th!
- Began to figure out a whole lot more about myself that I had mere inkings of before... https://twitter.com/Ghostalservice/status/1299805445540982785">https://twitter.com/Ghostalse...
Actually that last point probably give me scope for explanation. Buckle up, kids, personal time!
Gender is a fuck. I& #39;m still sure I& #39;m not a binary trans man, but I think I& #39;m a bit closer than I realised. So if you want to use he/him for me as well/instead of they/them feel free!
Gender is a fuck. I& #39;m still sure I& #39;m not a binary trans man, but I think I& #39;m a bit closer than I realised. So if you want to use he/him for me as well/instead of they/them feel free!
And on a related note, I think I& #39;m demiromantic. I have a weird relationship (hah) with romantic attraction, and I& #39;d put a lot of that down to trauma but now I think a bit more of that is inherently part of me.
Possibly more to follow on that when I figure it out a bit more!
Possibly more to follow on that when I figure it out a bit more!
Actually no, ramble time.
I definitely get romantic attraction. But like, there& #39;s people I see and I find them cool & wanna get to know them/be friends. There& #39;s people I find cute & wanna kiss. There& #39;s people I find hot and, well, you get the gist. Those feel separate...
I definitely get romantic attraction. But like, there& #39;s people I see and I find them cool & wanna get to know them/be friends. There& #39;s people I find cute & wanna kiss. There& #39;s people I find hot and, well, you get the gist. Those feel separate...
...and to me, romantic attraction happens when at least two of them line up, and reach a deeper level. Like, I can want to kiss someone upon seeing them, but only after we& #39;ve been friends for quite a while will I want to date them?
And from what I understand, that "got to be close friends before proper romantic attraction happens" is the definition of demiromantic, which is why it feels like the right label for me.
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Morning Blair Here, with Ramble Part 2 that comes with the clarity of having slept:
I think a lot of people find it easy to distinguish between sexual and romantic attraction, on both ends of the attraction spectrum. Like, I know I& #39;m not ace in any way. But there& #39;s a...
I think a lot of people find it easy to distinguish between sexual and romantic attraction, on both ends of the attraction spectrum. Like, I know I& #39;m not ace in any way. But there& #39;s a...
...wee gray area in the middle, the zone I& #39;ve been referring to as "cute & wanna kiss them", that I think makes it less clear-cut for some folk.
"I can& #39;t be arospec because I want to kiss people like, a lot! And I like the *idea* of dating!" was my rallying cry for a while.
"I can& #39;t be arospec because I want to kiss people like, a lot! And I like the *idea* of dating!" was my rallying cry for a while.
But a lack of romantic attraction is a weird thing to wrap your head around. I remember reading ace people talking about rarely/never having crushes in school, and going "but *I* rarely had crushes, and I& #39;m very not ace!" and being some form of aro never crossed my mind.
Partly because I was in a relationship, which I had initiated and at the time genuinely did have a crush. Partly because I had been known to have "proper" crushes, and also frequently saw people I thought were very pretty/I wanted to kiss, so that has to mean I& #39;m not aro, right?
Also wrapping that up with me liking people in the same way regardless of gender (having no baseline for "this is "standard" sexual/romantic attraction to compare it to means a lot of "do I like all or do I like none?")
Anyway once again I do not have a satisfying conclusion, I& #39;m only bothering with this thread in case anyone else feeling the same kinda way stumbles across it, so you know you& #39;re not alone!
So anyway, to blatantly plagiarise critical role: don& #39;t forget to love each otherhttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💚" title="Grünes Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Grünes Herz">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🖤" title="Schwarzes Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Schwarzes Herz">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💜" title="Violettes Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Violettes Herz">
So anyway, to blatantly plagiarise critical role: don& #39;t forget to love each other