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yep. it& #39;s time to talk about this.
first of all, she is not flirting with you. second, YOU, straight men, are uncomfortable with a girl talking to you in a bar? Wow that just be so hard; if only women knew what it felt like to be incessantly spoken to uninvited when just trying to have fun with friends!
next, you& #39;re uncomfortable that someone you& #39;re serving at YOUR workplace didn& #39;t reveal personal details before speaking to you?
Is the first thing you say when you order a drink at a bar "hi my name is Joe, I& #39;m a market analyst, in my spare time I play COD, and I like watching football?" No! Patrons, and people you meet in a bar, do not owe you their personal information!
And speaking of uncomfortable, yes, you, a straight man, are the victim of an uncomfortable situation when a woman speaks to you. How about being a trans woman walking into a bar in a town where grown men routinely use f- and t- slurs in everyday speech together?
And I& #39;m sorry, uncomfortable when they found out what exactly? That they were attracted to a trans woman? What exactly is uncomfortable about that? Last time I checked being attracted to someone is a pleasant or exciting sensation.
First, being attracted to a person is not that person& #39;s fault. Why do the personal feelings of a server or patron get to dictate who gets to come inside a bar?
Second, and more importantly, stating outright that you& #39;re uncomfortable being attracted to a trans person is quite literally, by definition, stating outright that you& #39;re transphobic- as a business and as a person. Not a good look!
On the subject of the woman in question being banned from the bar, my question is why, when she has done nothing out of line or illegal, is SHE the one not permitted entry to the establishment?
If you& #39;re uncomfortable with another patron& #39;s simple EXISTENCE, go somewhere else. Why does it have to be the person from the marginalized group who is expected to accomodate/leave for the sake of the straight man, who has every other privilege in the world?
Last thing for now: just want to make it clear I do not intend to speak FOR the SJ trans community; I just think this story speaks to the reality of the pervasiveness of hate and discrimination on George.
so I want to highlight it and present some really obvious holes in the argument and start a conversation about attitudes and tolerance in the SJ nightlife scene.
I invite everyone of all sexual orientations, gender identities, etc to share their experiences and opinions on the situation so we can all learn generate a better understanding of the problem so we can work to change it.
To learn more I recommend https://youtu.be/PbBzhqJK3bg ">https://youtu.be/PbBzhqJK3...
honestly I want this on @CBCNL news. This is unacceptable
