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If you come from a background where you put up with a lot of negative/traumatizing behavior from a parent that you deeply loved, understand you may still do that with romantic partners. Unfortunately, a child with that experience develops a high tolerance for unhealthy behavior
And this would have them grow up and miss the red flags in people. These individuals have HUGE hearts and aware deep down no one is born evil. Seeing the good sides of the parents (even if it was rare) is what the child holds on to so they can survive.
Once you’re out of that household/ experience understand you no longer have to go through that again. You are your caretaker now and you do NOT have to take care of anyone else (especially if you have no kids) no more falling in love with potential and see people for who they
Are in the moment. You don’t have to down them or be shallow but you have to be emotionally intelligent enough to know that no matter how much you love someone if they don’t love themselves (sounds familiar) they will not be able to show you the appropriate love one deserves.
Toxic parents have taught children that their behavior is “normal” and these children have experienced one sided and emotionally/physically abusive situations with lovers/people. Now being aware know you’re valued exactly the way you are. You’re strong for getting through that.
And continue to be brave to love again. There are people out there who are just like you hoping to find someone who gets it. Sending you all so much love and healing.
